HAHA NO - you warmed her up and he moved in!

So many guys have me to thank for that - all the ones I dropped the ball on, the girl is all worked up, and the next AFC that comes along gets a free pass in.

Girl is single for years or in an LTR, I work on her, she dumps her ex / warms up to me, I drop the ball, the next guy in line magically gets in, even though he's AFC.

I have 10 girls I can tell you about where this exact same thing happened.

There's every possibility she gets sick of the AFC very quickly and dumps him but don't hang around for it.

What the hell.

For me the story was all over, my target was ''seeing'' this guy and she kissed him, always holding hands etc.


I saw her at a bar with my friends yesterday, she seemed cold and distant, I said hi and gave her two kisses on the cheeks then moved on with my friend and didn't let her phase me, when she left she came by our table and said goodnight to pretty much everyone excluding me..

Then at 11pm tonight I check my cellphones, 2 missed alerts.

From my target + her hot friend : Come to *** club !

Same message, exact same time.

It's almost like they wanted to see wich one I would reply to..

Pretty fucking weird.


I just replied to her hot friend something like thanks for the invitation but I'm working tommorow and was going to bed, talk to you soon.


PS : Hot friend never texted/called me before, we exchanged number on facebook because she wanted me to teach her how to play guitar and blabla.

This is so fucking CONFUSING haha

Anyways, going to bed..had to wrestle with my old AFC self not to panic and go

''OMG BOTH GIRLS WANT ME TO COME SEE THEM OMG ON MY WAY''

As much as your trying NOT to be an AFC right now.

You are being one. Major AFC.

You shouldn't get hurt by what happened. Just joke around with her, saying Hi to her and avoiding her is just avoiding the problem.

So both girls texted you?

Did you text back both of them or just her hot friend? Because if you only texted back her friend, I'm sorry to say, but huge mistake!
Because she'll probably think your angry or upset with her.

Trust me a girl subconsciously WANTS to upset you. Its one of the very few things a woman has power over a guy in.
As much as we are told otherwise in the media and society, woman have much more power over men emotionally. That is, woman hurt men emotionally HEAPS more, just men don't really talk about being hurt by the opposite sex as much as woman do. And this girl seems to be fucking with you big time.
The best you can do is treat her as if she's doing nothing to you. Treat her like your BEST FRIEND. That will really fuck up her 'game'. Because deep down she wants you to be upset.

She'll start thinking "why is he so cool about everything?" . Next time you see her, talk to her the most out of all your friends. Treat her like nothing happened and like she is your best friend. Don't avoid her. The more you do this, the more she'll start to forget about everything that happened.
Even if this girl HATES you. Treat her like a best friend. Hey- it might even amuse you to do so, just to see how she'll react.

I'm not saying that by doing this she will want to fuck you. But it will be VERY amusing.

I texted both back.

Am I being paranoid if I'm thinking they mass-texted this to everybody in their cellphones contact list.

The two girls are together, at the same club..and all of a sudden they would BOTH text me the exact same message, at the exact same time?

This doesn't make any sense to me at all.

hmm that is a tricky one.

Just don't think about it would be my bet. No use pondering over it. You will never know unless you ask her, and if you ask her try to make it in a joking way and not in a serious "WHAT HAPPENED" type question.

You are just thinking too much about it, first you said "what if they texted me to see who I text back first" and then "what if it was a mass text".

I used to do the same thing (still do sometimes..). No good will come from thinking into it.

well it's just the weirdest setups considering the hot friend never contacted me before and that they messaged me at the exact same time with a vague message that wasn't mentionning my name.

Usually my target would call me by my name when she texted me.

And they did not reply.

I'm bumping this, curious to know what conker thinks about the situation haha.

Well if it was me in this situation, (with the duplicate txt mgs) I'd assume that it was some sort of scheme they are up to, but at the same time it shouldn't change my course of action. Just accept it may be a possibility and do the right thing anyway, by not reacting negatively. If it isn't a scheme, I didn't make any mistake, and if it is, then I did the unexpected by reacting normally. Basically the only reason you acknowledge it could be some sort of scheme is to remind yourself not to act any different.

I agree with vizzy, act cool, nothing is different. It's always your best shot. It'll either turn out good or no different, but it won't turn bad - you can avoid that.

My opinion on the overall situation is it's fucked with her now but you can at least be friends with them and be the cool unattainable guy and maybe hook up with her friend or someone else in the group or use them as social proof while you're out. And as always - it's always possible with any girl no matter what, so don't block her out of your periphery to the point where you miss a fleeting opportunity to generate attraction wih her, in the very minor chance that it comes up.

So what ended up happening dude?

I just texted both back that I wasn't going to that club. I'd kill to know what really went down with those fishy text messages.

I spoke with her friend on facebook..something like :

Hey did I miss anything last night? I bet you girls really wanted me to come so you decided to text me both at the same time eh? Haha!

And she replied something like ''Yeah haha''

Then a short normal conversation ensued.

haha yeah something was up, but you'll probably never know and it's not important to know either. It's to be expected wierd things will happen when you killed what was there but there's still the fact that she was interested at some point. Like a girl who was so into me And I became afc and even though she lost attraction, she talks to me every nigt almost still, but doesn't wan to have sex anymore. Very wierd.

Saw her last night.

She seemed very excited, took about 50 pictures with me, told me she wanted to go rockclimbing with me next week, was very touchy.

But it appears she slept with the other guy she's supposedly seeing. I don't think i'll follow up.

Yeah I'd say leave it if she's fucking around, and playing games with you.

Some girls love leading guys on. In fact, it's a form of empowerment to them. It's one of the only ways she can feel like she has power over you.

Out of curiosity, how do you know she fucked the other guy?
Sometimes things may not always be the way they seem. Maybe ask her whats happening between her and the other guy. Just be straightforward about it.

Well here's the grand scheme of things



My friend ------- His girlfriend ------ The girl ----- Her Hot Friend.


My friend and his girlfriend have been together for 3 years, and his girlfriend is like a sister to me, so she tells me pretty much everything. The girl is a friend of said girlfriend.


Tonight I'll probably see her at the club, I'm going with another set of two hot girls


I hate myself for letting the AFC come out everytime I get feelings for a girl..When there's nothing involved I can be pretty good at picking up women left and right, but if I sense she could be material for more than a one night stand I fuck it up.

Yesterday was mad!

I went to the club with two other girls, HB8.5 and HB8.

HB8.5 had just dumped her boy friend and I know she digs me.

After building a bit of comfort with HB8.5, she was all over me, head on my shoulders, he legs all tangled up in mine. I was the king of the place, opening sets with girls, even guys..I was talking to everyone and felt pretty good by that point.

And then..


Boom, girl of the thread walks in with my friend's gf..The look on her face when she saw the girl, oh my fucking god. She stood there for a moment, speechless, then left saying ''well you're not talking to us so blablabla''.

A few minutes later a few friends of mine arrived, I went down to the bar to buy some booze and the girl and my friend's girlfriend were playing pool. She came to talk to me and said pretty much the same thing ''youre not talking to me blabla''.

Then I went back to HB 8.5 who was waiting for me.

Then I get a text from topic girl's hot friend : Where are you ?

Then the apocalypse.

Both my target and her hot friend enter the little room where I am with a few friends + hb 8 and hb8.5, with a weird look on their face, like they're up to something. They both sit down right next to me, on the opposite side of hb 8.5. From that point on they were very flirty, taking turns drinking from my glass. saying I deserved better than that girl blablabla. Then hot girl leaves and I'm left with target girl. I followed a guy above's comment and went straight to the point about the other guy..She said something like :


''God I'm so tired of everybody thinking I'm with that guy..We haven't seen each other that much, I didn't go to the restaurant with him you know? If I was really in love with him he'd be my boyfriend blabla.'' Then she said I was one of her favorites, or her favorite, I can't remember I was a bit tipsy. Then she said that she was confused about me because she heard that I was talking to other girls, mainly her hot friend, then I told her she was my favorite too from the get go. She basically told me to text her on tuesday so we can do something.

So yeah basically night went great, both girls looked jealous as fuck. Ended up k closing hb 8.5 afterwards, she's going nuts right now.

bye bye