Thanks again, I'll get over it and she didn't text me she sent via facebook. Regardless I hear what your saying and again appreciate the advice.

She's obviously not that into you. Get over it. Move on.

next her. Once she blew you off a second time because of being "too tired" I wouldn't have even bothered to invite her out. I'd freeze her out, and if it somehow makes her try chasing you again, maybe try again. Otherwise, I would not put any effort into it.

I think it might be a bit of oneitis though. I mean seriously, who bothers with LDRs anyway? LOL

I don't believe in this.
You don't text someone from a bar, probably drunk/tipsy, saying you'd love to see him and you don't ask to go over to someone's place if all you want is friendship.

Depending on where you live and obviously on the person you're dealing with, age doesn't really play such a huge role in defining who can be lover and who can be friend.

Unless something changes this will be my last time posting in this thread. Thanks for all the advice, but this is clearly over, not because of age or the fact that this girl was way to hot for me, or because she wasn't into it, she was without a doubt chasing me and I blew it. I acted cold and disinterested and she moved on and found someone else...which is what I plan on doing. Thanks again and GL out there.

Dude,

She was tired of waiting for you to put some effort in it. You should text her something about her birthday and say how you wish you had dumped your LTR when you first met her, and really would like to see her smile again. Hope she's happy and doing well.

And, next time a girl suggests coming over to watch a movie, don't just offer to get beer.. that's friend stuff. Gotta think like a girl, and make food and cocktails and and reply back with flirty, innuendo talk, so she knows you want her, not just as a friend. When she's drunk at a bar, offer to meet there, and buy her some more drinks, and drive her home.

Gotta put more effort into it.

Again appreciate the reply, your right she was waiting for me to put in effort but now she has a boyfriend and has for a FEW Months...also read the thread...I didn't tell her about the LDR and no way she found out. If for some reason something changes...I'll update

It hurts to read this. Im going through this now.

At first, they're way too easy. Desperate for you. You play it cool, and whether or not anyone admits it, that really does prolong the interaction and gives it some life. But somewhere along the line, it falls and its SUDDEN and PAINFUL.

I came to visit this girl Ive been talking to for a while. It was a business trip, but I had been talking to her for months. She was always calling me texting me, nude photos etc. But because of business, I really could not communicate with her and suddenly, she replies with one word answers.

Im in the transitional phase. Maybe its not over and theres still a chance. The days Im here are winding down. Its the unknown, the what ifs that kill you.

You try cocky funny no longer works. You try to be sweet, that doesnt work. You try to play aloof, she just forgets about you. Granted, I do feel like I could go back to my home state, re attract, and get her to fly me out again. But it feels like a waste. Im here, same state, I feel like it could still happen. Hoping against hope.

Lately Ive been in ignore mode. Everytime I text its an opportunity to post back one word answers. It hasnt been killed completely. Im in ignore mode because I have to gan back some of my balls, but the days are winding down. Gunna be sexual when I get back to talknig to her. Any advice please

OK fundanceman, I know I said I was done with this thread but I will share with you what I have learned. If I were in your situation I would suggest to meet her when you are in town if she's up for it you have to close her, thats your only option. Don't fuck around meet and close and continue talking to her or if she doesn't want to meet next her. There are no other options. GL

Thank you. I think I need to be more direct and express more interest in meeting up. Less playerish and more gentleman. Tbh, when I heard she was dating her ex I avoided her and went into a resentful mode. Hopefully they arent a "couple" and I can still meet up. It would be so sad to have 3-4 months of work to go down the drain. If I meet up with her and nothing happens, that's cool. I just dont want it to be a "What if" I could have seen her.

The what ifs are the things that will drive you mad....go for the meet up and then the close, at least you will have a solid answer on where you stand. GL

I once had a 6 year complex, over a chick that ended with "What if" in a much more extreme form. Plus I was super young. But still yeah rejection is harsh, but the "what if it could have worked out" is the worst

Just a quick update. I went to my school today to start getting my room in order. My school is having emergency interviews all day and when I walked into the office I saw Hot Student Teacher Girl. I have wasted the majority of my summer thinking about this girl(fucking lame I know) and when I saw her I fucking panicked. I used to be laid back and non caring around her but today I fucking froze. I asked if she was up next for interviews and she said yes and asked about my summer and all I could say was it was good and good luck with the interview. She then told me she had a summer cold and I replied with they are the worst and once again wished her good luck in the interview and left. Felt like and still feel like a clown. One for wasting so much time thinking about this girl who now has a serious boyfriend and two for acting nervous talking to a girl I at one time had chasing me. It seriously is time to move on.

It is time to move on and you should so and you will eventually do so and you should do everything in your power to do so quickly.
But at the same time don't be too mean on yourself, it happens to most people and if you really wanna look at the bright sight, it takes a man to entertain strong lasting feelings.

I know I said I would stop posting about this girl, but I have seen her twice in the past few days and waved both time and she straight up ignored me. WTF would make a girl who genuinely liked me and wanted to date me, seemly hate me now? I realize this is needy ect and I know she has a serious boyfriend but why ignore me like she doesn't even know me. Should I too start ignoring and acting like this or do I act unaffected and keep waving and saying hello? This is a lost cause for sure but I'm not sure how to act?