ok so I met a girl in a club the other night. she came back to my place. we messed around a bit but she said she dint want a one night stand. she was a bit cold in the morning and left shortly after waking up. I said I'll call her during the week and she said ok but just jumped in the taxi without a kiss. I haven't called or texted anything since.

was thinking to wait until valentines day and call her that evening. what do you think?

She used to be a model and is smoking hot so want to play it cool but don't want to lose her

Sounds like buyer's remorse. Did you build enough comfort or did you just jump straight into it?
Also, I'd wait until after Valentines. That's way too much pressure for a first date.

yep didnt build enough comfort but were chatting away in bed for a good bit. was only going to call her valentines to arrange a meet up next weekend. hope i havent blown this one

Hmm I'm no expert but I think it might work if you play it off like you two were a little drunk (don't discuss it too much), and then go straight to comfort.

anyone think I should call or text before valentines day. its 24 hours now.

want to keep her keen without seeming like an afc

I disagree with these guys and I don't think that it was a comfort issue, you blew it because you didn't fuck her. Trust me, girl in your bed = she wants to get fucked. Even though they often say that they don't want to fuck you it's very rare that they actually mean it. It's just ASD, she wants to know that you'll respect her in the morning and she doesn't want to feel "used", so she resists a little to not seem too easy. When a girl gives you token resistance (thats all it is usually) ignore it and try again a couple of minutes later.

I met a girl last week who gave me some major resistance. We spoke for about half an hour (I didn't say much) and then we ended up in her bed. I wasn't making much effort to build comfort because I usually do that AFTER fucking the girl (ever noticed how girls are much more open and honest during pillow talk after sex? It's the best time to build a connection). I was focused on building sexual tension, and just kept quiet while eye fucking her. So we end up in her bed and start making out, but she says she doesn't want a one night stand. I won't go into detail, but after a couple of hours of me getting her horny and her keep repeating that she's turned on but that she doesn't want to seem easy, she asks me to fuck her. We chat and mess around afterwards, and in the morning, and then she asks to meet again.

See if I'd have listened to her when she said she didn't want to, rather than paying attention to her actions (she was clearly turned on and wanted it badly, plus in the same bed as me, half naked) I probably wouldn't have gotten another invite. A girl won't share the same bed with you without expecting something to happen, unless she thinks you're her gay best friend or something.

I did everything in bed. had my dick in for a bit but to be honest this girl is well nice and I want to go out with her. I could have fucked her and all but I want more. So I haven't done anything yet...

thinking to call her tomorrow. before she left I said I'd call during the week and she was game. she said she had plans friday but was free so I think ok not enough comfort built up and she was a bit hungover and wanted to get home.....but I can salvage this.

So I'm thinking of calling her tomorrow wish her happy valentines...invite her over thursday for a movie and take it from there. maybe tell her I'd like to get to know her better etc.....

any advice is most welcome. because its a crucial moment. make or break...

Ok so I called, she answered and soon as she heard my voice hung up

Then sent her a text

Maybe not a great time to call. I was going to cook dinner Thursday and ask you over. I'd like to get to know you better. Give me a call when you have a chance.

Blew it me thinks

Ok so she got back in touch. I fucked up bad the other night and told her I had a car and I'd drop her home because she was saying she wouldn't stay otherwise. I know bad lie.

Need major advice. Willing to pay someone

Ok here goes the convo

Me:
If we could talk on the phone it would be better. I don't want you to think all I wanted was a one night stand. Your a special girl and deserve to be treated as such and I hope you believe in second chances

Her:
I'm over at a friends house. Ok well im really not a 1 night stand type of girl. Wat really annoyed me was that u lied about the car and having 2 get a taxi home is pretty humiliating.

Me:
I know I'm really disappointed about that. I shouldn't have lied to you and I felt v bad honestly. I'll make it up you x

Her:
I don't know I'm really not happy about it don't think u cud make it up. Sorry

Me:
I'd like to cook a meal for you, it will put a smile on your face. We can talk over the phone before then when your free



Right I'm not going to text again and call at wknd. This forum used to be good for help. Really need some good advice. There's a slight chance I can redeem this

Came across to needy man, you might have blown it. She didn't like the taxi maybe she saw it as DLV as you had to lie to get her out, but it was probably the fact you lied that did it. From her eyes she's only just started hanging with you and you lied. Doesn't make her feel safe, you could lie about going somewhere and you could take her to a forrest and rape her. Sounds far fetched but woman subconsciously think that.

Leave it a while, I mean a week or so. Try again, don't invite her out just talk. If she seems disinterested take it as a lesson and move on.

Never lie dude, never ever ever ever ever ever unless you can back it completely and it's a small one. I'm sure you know that now.

wow too needy. your talking to a frickin model man if you chase her your hardly being original.
I,m surprised she text back you should maybe try get into her social circle she,ll have hot freinds and the fact your both connected through her will ease the pressure off.
hope I helped

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appreciated... my confidence is up anyway so if I can get a 24 yr old cracker I'll just get an even nicer sounder one. not goina text her until next wk and then maybe play it real cold