I met this girl about 3 weeks ago, let's call her Alexa, through another girl called Amanda. I initially thought Amanda was the cute one, so I approached her and while we where talking all her other friends came around (Alexa included). It turned out Amanda is kind of the shy one and Alexa digged me from the get-go (I literally didn't have to do anything). I like Amanda though.

The week went by and Alexa and I went for dinner one night, nothing fancy, she was at the beach and called me over so I went and sat there for a bit. There was a dude friend of hers there so it was BS talk most of the time, I didn't even talk to be honest. We went to grab some food later and dropped her off but the little that we did speak evidently sparked some interest in her.

Yesterday night there was a party downtown and I walked in and saw her and her group but I kind of avoided them (they didn't notice). The time went by and when we did find each other...we just started dancing and I ended up grinding and kissing and what not etcetc with Alexa, the girl I did not digg that digged me instead.

Amanda, the girl I DO digg, then came by later on and said hello while I was grinding with this other chick but HERE'S THE WEIRD THING; she was HAPPY as FUCK to see me for a split second and then she realized what was going on between me and Alexa and her expression changed from super happy to fake happy/dissapointed right on the spot. I'm dead sure I could get something better from Amanda, and then things got weird in my head.

Amanda, the girl I didn't digg and I ended up heading back home and she didn't stop talking about how much she wanted to fuck me and all that as she had it clear I would give her a good fuck. It just came to my head though that she probably does that with every guy she meets or something? She also mentioned she had a boyfriend during that dinner? IDK, I was just bummed out and kind of turned off. She made it seem kind of mundane? I don't even know, it's just not clicking.

I ended up telling her I couldn't finish it at my place that night since my cousin was sleeping over and she'd be upset (loliknow) and she's in dorms and ain't allowed to bring boys up home so I couldn't go over either.

Thing is, we've postponed the fuck but I don't want to fuck her. I want her friend. I just don't feel like the kind of guy to fuck just for the sake of fucking, I feel no connection with her whatsoever.

I got the night with her to end this way, she said: "I'll get going because if I stay here you'll just fuck me on the pavement." We where fooling around in the street in front of her building.

I don't think the story's DLV either, in case she lets her friends know, as I played it cool and blabla so I'm not worried about that. In any case, If I don't end up fucking her, she let her friends know it WAS going to happen (hence displaying SHE wanted it because I was good blabla she even told me) and if I don't, I'd be the one rejecting her (DHV).

How can I weasel myself out of this one? Do I just need to be an asshole period? I'm pretty much dead sure that's the way to go.

Given the option, a bitch will always walk over me if I don't walk over her instead.

P.S:
I'm a freshman and she's a sophomore I think, or a junior.

I am totally ripping this answer off from an episode of SEINFELD...but DAMN...I wish I were in your shoes because I would love to try it.

If I understand your situation there is YOU, Amanda (the girl you want but don't have) and Alexa (the girl that wants to fuck you but you arent all that interested in)

If this is indeed the situation here is what you do..

You go out with Alexa and have a few...then tell her that you want to have a THREESOME (you, her and Amanda). A few scenarios would happen here.

1) she gets pissed off, blows you off (nice out..right?) tells Amanda at which point Amanda will realize you are interested in her. You then call Amanda about a week or two later and ask her out....she will go to Alexa to get clearance....Alexa will agree cause she now hates you....you just pulled off the BFF "switheroo"

or this could happen

2) Alexa is INTO the Threesome and so is AMANDA!! You may not be into fucking for fucking's sake but c'mon EVERY guy would love to have a 3-some

or this could happen

3) Alexa is INTO the Threesome but AMANDA is disgusted by it....in which case you STILL have a chick wingman that that can score you a 3some

or this could happen

4) Alexa is pissed about it...she tells AMANDA...AMANDA is disgusted by it (you would not know this until you called her and she yelled at you - see #1) in which case you have neither

or...you could do NOTHING and end up with the same result as #4.

I would go for it....at the very least you will have an incredible field report to share with the rest of us...

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Atomicglow

i personally would just say to her you really have a thing for her friend but i do like the above comment as well.

Anything George thinks of is obviously the only way to go! I'm with AtomicGlow on this one. If you don't really care about the outcome to much, do the old menage a trois trick. It will most likely backfire in some funny ass way, but the story will be priceless!

Thank you all for the replies! I've ignored her as of yet, she texted me "oh so you walk past by me without even saying hello? I see how it is..." and yeah, basically acting kind of weird and all. As trying to get my attention (staying around me, wearing more makeup, dressing better).

Her friends have started to ignore me completely (or maybe it's just me pre-conception on the subject thus blowing myself out? IDK). I don't give a fuck though, it's alright.

I'm a college student bro's remember, I'd go for it if they where out of college with me but if if it does backfire it'll spread around and GAME OVER for me.

BTW, yesterday at this pub there was a waitress I found cute and this is what happened. I went up to her, touch her waist and when she looked at me I winked/smiled gently and moved my head to for her to come follow me where there was less noise. She did and I go "I like you, give me your number".

She's like "you're probably new to the country just want to do stuff to me and then leave me alone". I reply "Come outside" and she started drifting off getting busy (waitress at a crowded pub at 4 a.m, she had to pick shit up and what not). She let the drinks on the counter and then walked out with me and I asked her 1) where she was from 2) how long she had been in the country and replied the same about me.

I insisted on the number, and then she told me to "please come back and talk to her another day when I'm a little more sober." I gave her my phone and said "I'm not drunk, put your stuff in". She smiled at me and gave me the number.

^^^I should've just tried kissing her out of the fucking blue to see what happened.

I'm about to call her now and ask her how her night went, and how she's doing and to see if we can meet up sometime later on next week (maybe tonight?) you guys tell me.