my target is an older woman who was a client i dealt with for a short period. she called me a few times after we finished doing work for her and talked for quite a while at me so i figured she may like me. i dunno, i'm a pretty good listener so perhaps she just wanted someone to talk to coz she was going through a divorce.

anyway, i hadn't heard from her in about two months and i had pretty much forgotten about her but she called me today. i missed the call so i called back and, once again, she just talks and talks. anyway, i'm supposed to call her early sunday and then work out a time in the afternoon for us to have a coffee.

my question is, where am i up to in the scheme of things? i presume i'm past negging her and all that shit that goes with a2. or am i? i don't think she's really given any IOIs but i guess the calls could be considered IOIs themselves. so, if we do end up going for coffee, what's my starting off point and what am i trying to achieve on that occasion?

i should add, i'm pretty much as poor at picking up as you can imagine.

TBH, I would play this one as if you just got a date with an online HB.

You have minimal attraction, so start building some solid attraction, best way for a beginner would be C&F, be careful with the listening part if you don't want to hear LJBF, listen, but do add some C&F stuff as responses every now and then, don't just acknowledge. If you want her to consider you as a potential mate, just turn the C&F responses into sexual plays.

This is just an overview, if you want more detail, read some of David DeAngelo stuff.

Cheers!