Thanks Mech for your help.

What kind of date would you recommend? I thougt a coffee date was a good idea, not cinema or something.

Thanks I know a couple boyfriend destroyers which I can use if the topic comes up. All from this site

I tried not to telegraph interest. I am still trying. When should I show my interest?

he reasons coffee dates are bad are:

1) Everyone does coffee dates (AFCs). A PUA must be the exception to the trend.

2) Taking someone out for coffee or to a movie does not say anything about you, except that you don't know anywhere interesting to go. Find somewhere eclectic, know your city, pick up a local weekly paper if you don't know the secret hot spots.

Ah good points there, thanks mate, gold advice!

I don't know where you live, but the following are dates I have had success with in Washington, DC: Going out to dinner at an ETHIOPIAN restaurant (no silverware or plates), going to the zoo and having lunch across the street, teaching a girl how to rock climb, hiking a trail that ends at a gorgeous waterfall, going to this little-known place that sells the best falafel in town, going to a quirky cafe (not starbucks/caribou coffee/crazy mocha/etc..) where they play live music and there are couches instead of chairs.
""The whole idea is to offer the girl an experience, not just a cup of coffee and a forced conversation.""

I will remember that quote, thank you mate

3) Any date where it's just you, your date and some unremarkable food/beverages will boil down to 90 minutes of high-pressure awkward conversation. If you can move the whole scene into some quirky/active/interesting environment, you will both have more fun and you won't have to focus on getting to know each other -- it will just happen.



I have never used a boyfriend destroyer, but all the ones that I know entail not showing interest until you sense that she is identifying boyfriend-like qualities in you. You have to reframe her current relationship in her mind and then reframe her perception of you.