| ..not to approach: criminal!
Thought I'd just share some pain here, for any who might relate or may give further advice.
So, Ive been doing lots of reading and watching DVDs and seminars and getting all this great advice about how to rid myself of approach anxiety/terror and all the rest of it...., and YET, time and time again, where not only do the opportunities present themselves on a shining golden platter, they come with a side serving of bright neon capital IOIs.., I somehow manage to avoid acting, reacting or doing anything: I just freeze up in the moment and walk on by. CRIMINAL.
Today, 3 instances:
1. Morning. I come back from the bakers with breakfast, there is a smoking hot girl standing on my street corner. And I mean literally smoking hot - she was hot, blonde, tanned, and smoking a cigarette casually, just standing there, like waiting for me.., there wasnt any obvious reason why she was standing there smoking. Well needless to say I avoided eye contact and just walked on by.
2. Afternoon. My amazingly hot gym instructor - who I have long since convinced myself that she would never, ever, ever be in the least bit interested or, heaven forbid, attracted to me - has been showing signals lately, which, in retrospect I only later realise they were blatant IOIs. ...To think what might have happened by now if I had approached her and made my move, to think what could happen if I approach her tomorrow...
2. Evening. In the supermarket, going along the isles, I keep bumping into this... girl. Now she is the cutest girl I have almost ever seen, just exactly my type, sort of classy indian look, great skin complexion, long black hair straight out of a shampoo commercial...., and she was DEFINITELY glancing at me with obvious but subtly IOIs! I couldnt believe it. So I kept on bumping into her as we went about our shopping, and then again in the queue, undeniable IOIs. Well I finished checking out first, walked out the door, lingered for a bit on the corner, she came out, unfortunately walked the other direction, I followed her, feeling like a right creepy weirdo, she got to her apartment, and that was that, I wasnt gonna stop her at her door and say I followed you whats your name!
Oh the pain...!
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