hello,

I am visiting night clubs very often and i like to dance. Sometimes, when I hear a good song, I suddenly walk in to the dancing crowd and start dance alone.

Rather frequently, several girls come near me and start dancing. Usually where are two girls and they dance in front of each other. If I don't show any attention, they come closer and closer me, they start "accidentally" touch me, while dancing. Sometimes they start dancing in front of me so close, that I have no space for my dance and i go backward a little bit..
I feel it is "proximity alert system".

What is the best way to open them? While all of us are dancing, I can't open them with popular PUA openers because of music, big noise and moving bodies. I think it should be body actions. I tried to keep eye contact with one of girls, but it is not working, they don't keep it. Maybe too shy, or I don't understand something:) She only looks at me for a second and turns her eyes to her dancing friend.

I also try to say very loudly to her ear "if i can join you two and dance together?" Sometimes it works, but not all the time. I found out, the it is very difficult for girl to say "yes" in this situation....

What could I do better?

"Hey, I didnt invite you for a dance".

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Learn from my mistake...If a girl is interested in you and your interested in her, get her number before you get drunk.

get in her ear n say "apparently ur here to teach me how to dance" or "apparently ur tryna get me to teach u how to dance" any iois afterwards eg, a smile, her moving closer etc jus go in n start dancing with her. then wen the song is finished, b4 she moves away, push her off now u can compliment her on her dancing. "hey, u dance good. but im sorta tired, wanna com get a drink n sit wit me?
" if she will either agree n com with u (if shes alone), if shes with friends, u need to make sure n invite all her friends over too. she wont move without them. if she says no, say "damn! thats thee wrong answer, anyways im going over there, maybe i see u there too" i bet she comes to u

excuse me is it me or ur dancing too close to me?

or say excuse me u nearly stepped on my shoes?

If she says ooh sorry

U can say well lucky u dun have smelly arm pits. lol. u muz deliver it in a joking way then laugh OR lucky u hav not stepped otherwise i'l spank u naughty girl;)

Then u can neg on the way she dances. eg

U know if u keep dancin like that ur gonna scare the crowd away. lol

then say ooh IC it now, u cum ova here bcoz u tryin to get me to teach u how to dance. then juz grab her hand n teach hur. hur hur:)

Rather than asking outright do u want to sit with me. It's a 50/50 thing

better to say hey Let's go and get a drink. When we refresh we can come back n dance some more. then grab her hand n head off for drinks.

Dont go on the dance-floor ever. Unless you feel your dancing is a DHV which it rarely is. You can have fun and enjoy yourself pick up and listen to music without making an ass of yourself and ending up hot&sweaty.

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What a title!

U have a point there, true. U dun need to get all sweaty.

But if u wanna kino the girl, u can put on a few slow dance moves. Look HB in tha eye n move both ur bods. Take her hand swing her half way pull her in. Soon she'd be tha one huggin us PUAs. lol

Then neg her say:
u need to work on ur dancin but...lol
tat can be arranged by me.

teach her a few more steps wit kino

then later u can follow thru. rem to always follow thru n keep the convo going (patterning stories etc)

follow thru for example

U know we had a great time dancing. Its amazing how we manage to dance all nite n u learning how to dance frm me. Like this (show her again more kino)

I know this great place where we can practice. Lets see if next time u have more improvement?

So she'll have that imagination of going out AGAIn wit u next time.

Idea! u can even throw in a but... statement in there
Eg. I know this great place we can practice but...
HB: but what
But its a bit far maybe for u.
HB: Oh no it wud be ok.
Ok if its ok i take u there next week. u got a numba to call?

lol # close

Correction - don't go on the dance floor ever unless you're ME. And what I do in situations like the first poster mentioned is that I start dancing with the girls. The catch is, that I actually know how to dance very well and I start partner dancing with them; I'll do some inside or outside turns, texas tommies, cuddles, or other "lead" stuff. Basically rock their fucking socks of because chances are, they've never danced like that. Since the girls are there to have fun, you have to match their "fun" frame or raise it.

Anyways, there is a lot of stuff you can do. You can playfully neg them for stepping on your feet, accuse them of grabbing your ass, etc. Ask them their name after a while and don't be afraid to leave them to go get a drink. Later on, if you see them off the dance floor you've sorta already "opened" to them so at that point you can do another opener which will basically function to get a conversation going - and then run game like usual.

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Yeah I would have to disagree with Curse as well. Usually the dance floor is where the hottest and funnest girls are at and you'd be a fool to stay away from it. The key is to go in smiling and act like you fucking belong there, most preferably with a wingman or two. A safe bet is to make eye contact and then start dancing but not too close to the target. Just see if the she moves closer to you or maybe say something in her direction to see if that makes it happen. You know your in when your target locks in to you so you can start leading (and maybe grinding, ha). In the beginning I was nervous dancing with chicks I didn't know, but after the first few I realized its a such a big rush that I wanted do it all the time. I feel like it's a good ice breaker and makes gaming them afterward a hell of a lot easier.

i like to mirror what HB is doing! but exaggerate it, then when she notice's what u are doing, do some sort of dance move, and challenge to some sort of dance off (with ur body language not verbal)! after a couple of times that u do this move in, grab the target and salsa! i find this works as there is some kind of rapport built!

lots of solid advice here. keep it coming fellas:)

infernal from my (limited) club experience, most girls wont hold eye contact unless they are basically head over heels in love with you, especially if you haven't been dancing with them specifically for a while. the best technique ive found is dance like you're there to dance, and not really look around/at/for anyone. once girls start moving towards you, then you are interacting with them on your terms, so to speak

YEA, you Have to learn to dance at least well enough to pretend your skilled. Otherwise getting girls in a club is a whole different monsters. Theres PUAS out there who fuck a different hottie everynight just by snagging em off dance floors. I believe in variation and adaptability and dancing is sex with clothes on-PERIOD. women will directly judge ur dancing ability in relation to how well u fuck. And in sum ways they should rythym is very Impt to well-partnered sex. It makes her feel connected to you when u control a dance but can also move with her and it also turns her on ALOT>. jokes, eye contact, a smile a neg or two , skilled targeted kino are all also very impt. A PUA who is good at everything is probobly better off than a PUA who is great at one thing and borderline decent at everything else. Ive seen guys using all these in combination take a girl off the dance floor and straight home with very little speaking. Variety is the spice of life brothers and your ability to attract and maximize the types of women u attract hinges on the combination of all things that make a PUA. Those who say dancing is rediculous/unecessary or even negative should stay out of dance infested areas. Learning to dance fairly well is within everyones sphere of possibility just like learning minds games negs and alpha male behavior is. If we didnt have to learn OR MASTER these things and were "perfect naturals" which no one truly is THEN WE WOULDNT BE HERE!!

While all this advice is good, the one thing i kind o question is what if the club is simply to dark to see eyes clearly?

Well just pull her off the dance floor after dancing with her for a while. Then you can have some talks, and if she likes you and youre interesting ask her to dance some more