So yeah, we always catch up at uni, and shes texted me numerous times revealing little bits and pieces... other guys even think shes the hottest girl in my uni and to top it off, got a jem personality. She always goes in rough with boyf , she falls back on me, cried into my lap blabhalbhalh. Ive got alot on her boyfriend too... looks, he is shorter than her, im taller... and heaps of other shit. When i first went to uni she would always be looking at me and give me about 100 ioi's, and she even revealed to me one day she thought i was arrogant and 'too cool for school' but got to see a deeper side to me.

ANYWAY
the other night she came and watched me get some more tattoo on my sleeve, and i figured itd be something memorable for her too. we got dinner afterwards and she sed she didnt feel like leaving heaps 'because she couldnt be bothered'... i didnt know how to take that, but we havent seen eachother for months due to uni break.

ANYWAY during conversation, she mentioned a 'hot guy' in a lecture that i missed out on. In response to that i cut it shot and sed "cool .... anyway" and then she followed up with flashing a torch in my eye and saying "HEY!"

How should i respond to shit like that?

EMotional tampton time for you sir. Boyf treats her like shit and you get to comfort her in an a non-sexual way? FUUUCCKK that.

And it doesn't matter what you've got on the other guy - at the moment he's got her EMOTIONS under his control - you need to change that script - she's still with the guy.

I'd just ESCALATE like a mofo, better to show her your sexual intentions that be her shoulder to cry on - even if she blows you out, its better than being in the Friendzone, which you will be if you've not escalated and she keep stelling you about her boyf probs!

If she's given you "about 100 ioi's" why haven't you acted on that?

The guy above's right you're an emotional tampon for her right now. Like one of the girls to her.

No. More girl than girl.

Jokes aside, you NEED to show this girl that she CANNOT take you for granted.

No more giving her a shoulder to cry on, instead tell her that she made her choices and now she's going to have to suffer the consequences. You can't help her with that.

Also, it doesn't matter all that you've got over her boyfriend, he must still have that one thing which makes her stay with him. Not you.

For now, cool off this "hanging out" thing and make her realise that you're not a "buddy", because once you are in her eyes, easier to break out of Alcatraz than that.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

^^^ This.