I'm currently on a vacation in France where I thought of bringing this up.

Last Saturday I was chatting with a local bartender and he invited me to join him and his friends to go out for the night. So I joined them (fortunately two English and one Australian came allong which was easier to communicate with).

We started off by going to a crowded Surf Bar in town which was good fun and I decided to open a couple of sets. Soon I got really comfortable and quickly became the centre of attention, being the foreign guy who they could have a laugh with. Plus being Dutch is usually enough for French people to like you, since most of them love to smoke.

So everyone from the Surf Bar moved on to a local "discotheque" at 3am, which was good because at that point I knew a lot of people who were coming to this club.

The problem is that opening these sets and getting them interested at the Surf Bar wasn't that hard because their vocabulary will reach that far. But when going deeper into stories it was hard to understand one another, and it was hard to tease the girls and joke around. Now I don't mean this in any offensive way to French people, but they generally don't speak advanced English very often. I'll be going home on thursday which will mean I'll have a stop in Paris. Here I would like to give this another shot and maybe try creating a sexual tension without words.

So what's your opinion on this story? Have you found yourself in a similar situation and how would you or did you create a connection or sexual tension?

I'm looking forward to reading your thoughts on this!

-Wasted

Hi, well you will have to use more kino in this situation. Maybe some of your points can be made by touch.

Actions will really speak louder than words in that situaion.

For example if you want to say your target is beautiful, you could run your finger through her hair.

Remember that 93% of all communication is non-verbal. Body language is almost everything here.

Kino. Touch her. Kino-ping... tease her by playfully pushing her away (DHV/neg).