| i found this article (don't know where it's from sadly) about picking up bartenders. it's close enough to your situation, and i think you should give it a try.
I came across this article on The Player's Guide about picking up bartenders
and since I get a lot of questions about seducing barmaids... I thought I
would reprint the article in this newsletter...
I worked in a bar for a couple years... and think that this is a good strategy,
although I never recommend getting hung up on a bartender...
(...from the article)
Seducing a barmaid is often a long-term project, so you have to ask yourself
whether it's worth it. If you decide to go for it, here's a system:
Step 1: Smile, make sure to look straight into her eyes and ask her name
before ordering a drink for the first time. Don't leave a big tip, instead leave a
regular tip and buy her a drink. Go dance or work the club.
Step 2: Now that you know her name, always use it and smile whenever
ordering drinks. Don't use words like "sweetie," "cutie," "baby," or "hey."
Step 3: In the beginning, never try to make conversation during hectic hours.
You have to remember that she's very busy and needs to concentrate. The last
thing she needs is a pest who makes her confuse the orders. Respect her zone
and let her groove.
Besides, how interesting can you be if she has to interrupt you every two
minutes? Your best bet is to show up early before the bar gets busy. This will
give you more time to develop a conversation with her.
Step 4: Never volunteer your name; let her ask for it. It shows some sort of
intrigue in what you have to say.
Step 5: No compliments -- everyone else has already let her know. To a
barmaid, flattery means nothing. She hears it every night and has become
immune to it -- especially from a stranger. Instead, give her a negative hit. Try
saying something like, "Your lipstick is running," while smiling.
Step 6: Become her friend. That's right; don't show too much interest in her.
Instead, concentrate on being a friend. I suggest you keep her entertained
whenever she's not too busy.
Step 7: Have an interesting conversation; talk to her about something other
than the bar scene. Ask her what she does in her leisure time. Ask if she has a
day job or goes to school. Ask how her boyfriend handles so many men hitting
on her (purpose -- to find out if she's available). The idea is to show authentic
interest in her life, not her body.
Step 8: Dismiss any false buying signals. Remember, she might be flirting with
you for a juicier tip. Look for other hints that might illustrate that she's not
interested in your money.
Step 9: Asking for her phone number will lead her to believe that you are like
all the others trying to get into her pants. Never ask for her digits; it's a dead
giveaway that you're trying to pick her up.
Step 10: After developing a good friendship (usually takes a few weeks), ask
what she's doing after work (assuming she has no boyfriend). Then ask if she'd
like to go for coffee; if she's tired, ask if she'd like to hang out on a Sunday
afternoon. If she says "no," at least you tried and won't have any regrets. If she
says "yes," now is the right time to exchange phone numbers.
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