I know this is in the wrong section but i need more posts to access that section.

I had to work to get this girl at first she made all the moves and then i got really interested in her and she backed off...
a week later i freezed her out abit and she came running back to me saying how she wanted to be with me and liked me so much etc..
so now we are going out and we are together, and all day long she texts me saying how she misses me and wants to see me but we live an hour apart so sometimes hard..but i always make plans to see her take her to nice places... nice expensive restaurants in london and days out... and she always stands me up and never sticks to our plans and i dont understand? her ex bf treated her soo badly and this mgiht have something to do with it but i need help how can i assure here?

any help would be appreciated.

cheers

Relationships can be very tedious Suarez. My advice to you would be really mix things up for her. Be really spontaneous with her, don't give her a time of day. If its not too creepy of you find out her times off or when she's not in class ext. and surprise her. Show up unexpected and take her out, make it playful and fun and super spontaneous. Chicks eat that up man! Throw in a little romance with it, like maybe on your lunch with her taking her by somewhere romantic and mentioning how romantic it is, spark the subconscious. But really the emphasis is on playful and spontaneous.

Good luck man

Katonik

So she is txting you all the time to come to her, and she misses you...

you drive to her, 1 hour drive...

and she flakes?

happened multiple times?

if this is true, this girl is playing with you and i would just go for another girl mate.
Don't get mixed up in these emotional games.

2 hours of your life wasted for her. More then enough, let her work for you.

there both some good advice i am down for Christmas at my parents house for the week.

My sister has told me it sounds like she is messing me around :/
my girl says she cant wait to see me all this week.

I was suppose to her her tonight and she said "go out with your friends and have a good time and come see me tomorrow night for christmas kiss ?
Again most girlfriends would completely get exited but there bf wanting to see them but she never seems like really keen to see me?

But she works in retail and i play football in london for a living and most girls are all over me and want to see me ? but the one girl im with and really want this to work with doesnt seem keen to see me as much :/ ???

i did say to her i cant be dealing with this anymore she is wasting my time...

she said " no i am sorry i didnt see you i really like you alot! you mean so much to me more then i show sometimes but thats just how i am after what my ex bf did. i really want this to work?"

what do you make of this?

Good you told her mate... It's up to her now... Wait and see if her actions match her words if not take action....

First of all why promise her anything? Don't bring up any fancy dinners and whatever dlv bs you promised to her cause then you already shot yourself in the foot by being predictable. While you may pull plenty of chicks in her mind you have already delved into afc territory because you present zero challenge to her. The power is in her hands right now...time to put it back in your hands. Forget a freeze split up with her tell her it isn't working and go out and have some fun. NC cause if she really values you she will get in touch and then you can tell her you wont put up with her second class behavior and then set the tone for the relationship on your terms. If that doesn't work than as you said you have plenty of options.

Have you slept with each other yet? You shouldn't be taking her to such ridiculous places unless she's given a little of herself to you.

Secondly, don't dwell on her so much. She's obviously trying to work you. She might be dating you for the feeling of being romantic, getting free/expensive dinners, and being able to rely on someone to talk to and text. But IRL, she's probably still hitting up clubs, toying with other boys, and acting single.

She's not giving you a fair relationship. Though you may have invested in her some, pull out now while you can. It won't get any better. Try freezing her out some more or don't act so much like a dog begging for a snack. Act like you're busy or that you got fun shit going on. She'll want to share more time with you then. Good luck

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Cheers,
OptionX

I dont post a lot on here. I know probably everything there is to know and theory and shit. But once you get really pro, you realize that it doesn't matter.
Evaluate, Your girl had an asshole ex boyfriend that she still thinks about. She cares about you, but you're being the nice boyfriend who drives an hour to see you and then she flakes. So she treats you like shit. Probably fantasizes about that asshole ex or that guy from the gym. You did good by setting her straight. Now, what you'll want to do is start over with your new policy.
-Be playful, let her know, you better not fucking flake or I'll track you down, spank you in public, dump your ass.
-Lines aren't important, if she flakes again, tell her you don't want to see her because she flakes. Tell her to come to you?.
Just get down to your core inner man. Thats all the pickup theory you need.

cheers guys some awesome advice there im down here now and we are seeing eachover alot more since i told her straight, alot of people who know me and her have said i have slept with alot of girls from this area and they have warned her,

But i have just started putting her second priority and now it all seems alot smoother between us.

Suarez