Hey all,

let me first tell you that i am an unexperienced PUA and although I have read the 'book', still I am missing some field experience.

I am going to tell you what bothers me: I fucked up!

I met a girl at my gym, a good 7/8. But for some reason I felt to attracted to her.
[mistake 1: I was already daydreaming about having a relationship with her]

So I created some DHV, by talking with other girls, being the most social guy. Sometimes teasing/negging her (by ignoring her and talk to her friend). And she gave me IOI's several time. One time she approached me, but just a few feet she turned away.

Weeks after that, she kept looking for eye-contact with me. I felt great! Getting to A1-A2 phase. I noticed which time she went to the gym, so I went there too [mistake 2: no scarcity]. It occured that i saw her three times a week, and I didn't take action at all.

Months passed, I sometimes negged her or ignored her (because of my insecureness), but i didn't do anything. She lost interest [mistake 3: cat theory].

One time, i opened her. I wanted to start with a neg, some jokes and leave. But she took over the conversation and we talked about work (boring). She ended the conversation [DLV for me]

Now she is more avoiding me. Still I can not stop thinking of her.

What should i do? I, as an amatuer PUA, sincerly ask my fellow experienced PUA, for help. Tips, tricks, advice, everything is welcome!

You let WEEKS and MONTHS pass?

You didn't escalate. You have to keep moving forward. You garnered some attraction, but you didn't do anything with it. She probably figured you weren't interested or were just being a flirt.

That said, you could probably ask her out on a date. She might say yes, might tell you to fuck off, but there's only one way to find out.

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You're overthinking it. Those mistakes you made aren't big enough to seriously harm your chances with the girl. Girls like to play games, don't have her ending one conversation before you serve as a DLV for you. Simply start the game fresh...I'm telling you, the situation is still fine.

Thanks guys!

You are both right!

I let this endure for months, because of AA. When I am anxious to approach, I ignore her. The crazy thing is that i sometimes am not anxious. Therefore, mixed signals from my side.

I am planning to start over, since I never took a real shot on her!

I keep you all updated.

Thanks!

My advice is in the gym you need to be like me, the ripped, tall, big guy who looks absolutely beautiful. When it comes to gym, you fuck off all game and girls, focus on the fucking weights. I do it, and I always get the hot girls checking me out, standing next to me, brushing past me intimately by accident. Fuck your game in the gym haahahhahah!

^^^^Ummm, OK, that doesn't really help the guy who aren't really buff, but whatever....
Anyway, just start trying to qualify her. Show her things that you like about her other than her looks. THATS the first step to moving things forward beyond the stage you're in right now. If she doesn't respond well to you complimenting her then just playfully tease her. Simple. Then get a fucking number and set up a date.

Maybe the gym is a bad place for skinny guys to pick up girls, because in gyms, hot girls check out muscly guys. Generally girls that go to the gym like strong muscly men. Truth hurts doesn't it.

Actually it's exactly the advice that non-buff guys need.
Yeah, but isn't it wonderful that you can change your body?

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In my gym, there are lots of those muscle guys. But the funny thing is that they have no succes at all with the pretty girls there.

Usually the girls fall for the 'prettyboys': metro guys who don't work out too intensively, otherwise their hair will look bad

I think we are losing track from the topic:

The girl i like, she showed me lots of IOI's ( she approached me one time, laughed at my silly jokes, eye-contact many times). But I failed to escalate: i didn't do anything. And because of AA, i always came close but ignored her.
This thing is going on for months already!

Right now she is sort of avoiding me. She doesn't go to classes, where we both used to go. She doesn't work out at times where we both used to work out.

Sounds like you creeped her out. Start working on five more and she may or may not come around but by then you won't care.

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