I'm glad to say that I've been starting to go out to clubs more. It's something I'm not familiar or comfortable doing, but I feel that breaking out of your comfort zone and doing more social things like this helps being able to approach anybody anytime. First club I went to, I barely danced or danced very pathetically, you know that guy who wants to dance but is too embarrassed to move too much so he barely dances, kinda bobs his head a little lol. Second time it felt more comfortable since I've at least been to a club once and danced a little more.

Last night I was dancing, raving having a great time. Didn't care who was looking or whether I was dancing good or not, actually seeing other people dance and learning was a great experience.

But now that I'm starting to get comfortable in my own skin, I wanna know how to approach girls in raves and clubs to at least dance with them. What I've been doing the three times I've gone is just get near where girls are dancing and start dancing near them, and sometimes they'll turn and dance with me for a bit but not for long.

One thing that worked for me last night was I had some glow sticks and a girl said if she could have one, I leaned in put my arm on her should and said in her ear "come dance with me and I'll give you one." We danced, had a good time, grinded a bit, gave her one, didn't pursue anything further we talked a bit and then I regrouped with my friends.

I know I could have chatted her up more, coulda gone outside and smoked with her and escalated sexual tension and all that but it still felt uncomfortable for me, and what I did already was pushing my comfort zone so I felt what I did, the little it was, made me a better person and a more confident person.

So what's the best way to get up to girls and talk to them in raves. Should I just do what I've been doing for now and dancing around/near girls, making eye contact then dancing with them? What's a good way to approach girls chilling outside the dance floor, like outside during a smoke break. It seems like most girls are either already talking to guys or are in groups, which I still find hard to approach. Any advice?

Well there are two parts to your question here...

The first was to at least dance with the girls. I enjoy dancing, and go out quite often with my main intent to dance... All I do with girls though is walk up look them in the eyes and put my hand out, they will usually put there hand into yours, you're not asking them anything, they have nothing to say no to... then just pull them in and they are yours...

The problem with this, IMO is that it doesn't really build any platform for talking, the way I have over come this is by dancing for a song or a couple of songs, then moving them to a different area to game them.