I posted this in the introduce yourself section... I think that maybe this would be a more proper thread for this topic.

Theres this girl that im interested in... she always reaches my friend's crib n chills there, burns piff n we talk.... play games n wutnot. when she first met me, she was into me n she had a bf tht she just recently broke up with. i didn't wanna be a jerk n get in between things so i didn't really game her. well i did but not really lol. anyways as i said in the beginning she was feelin me n we use to sit close to eachother n we connected a few times, touched her hand n brushed her leg. at one point we were under blankets together n i put my arm around her... a few seconds later she just got up n moved to the other side of the bed. i was disappointed kinda... i unno wut to think about that... ever since that night shes started to become more n more distant. she wouldn't be sitting right next to me at times, n she wasn't all over me like in the beginning. for some reason i feel like i fell in the friend zone wit this one. a week ago after walkin her to the busstop, waitin for the bus, i told her to give me her hand as in to hold it, she said 'i've had bad bad experiences with that.' i laughed slightly, n i asked her if its cuz she didn't trust me or something, she said 'no, its that i had bad experiences wit that'. i wuz kinda lost, i didn't know wut to say. i paused for a minute, took a deep breath n i straight up told her that i like her, n i wanted her to be my girl (crap timing). bus just got there n she looked at me for a few seconds n then turned around n hopped on da bus. i texted her that same night n i said 'if u'd 've let me hold ur hand...." . she texted me back the next morning sayin that shes sorry but that she loves her ex. i then texted her that its iight. its been about a week and i've seen her a few times at my friend's but she never really shows much interest in me anymore, although i do catch a few glances from her n a few smiles but thts about it. i feel like im in da friend zone with her, and i don't know how exactly to approach this pray.

I did reply to this question in the intro section, but just to make another point. Break up your text.

Just like I did then dude makes it easier for people to read. You will get more replies then. Also use full words as much as possible.

Just some basic internet advice for future posts, good luck with your problem. As I said though. Anyone who writes that much unnecessary info on one girl. Is defo to attached and being played lol

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ahh i remember when i used to suffer oneitis. My perspective of the situation is that you are putting too much importance on this one girl and imo has alot of emotional baggage

I would recommend moving on to a different a girl bc imo even if you do get this girl there will mostly like be a couple problems with the relationship. Theres still over 3 billion girls out there and the moral of the story is dont put too much importance on a specific outcome with a specific girl

Hope it helps and i know its alot easier said than it is done

Oh and heres some help for when you want to try holding hands next time. Do not ask "Can I hold your hand?" i think it telegraphs way to much interest in your situation and comes off as way WUSSY.

one of the techniques i use for getting her hand is one that i learned from lovedrop and that is too lead her through a series of compliance test without telling her the purpose. You see even if she wanted to hold your hand, you asking alot of value from out her and put her into a awkward situation.

So heres what I do:
1. I hold up my own hand and look at the back of it and say "Oh thats interesting" like i just noticed something.
2. then i tell the girl "hold up your hand for me" and i demonstrate how i want her hand to be positioned
3. When her hand is out, I take her hand and say "Let me see" and continue to whatever kino routine i am using

some other tips for this is that pushing away(disinterest) creates comfort with the girl (hand toss/ roll off) and that you want to reward to girl for her complying to test something like "very nice" or "very graceful"

thats just what I do but everyone has their own personal style

I have to agree with chill46 and say that you need to move on to other girls. There are a bunch out there.

An explanation for her behavior could be that you were a rebound. You were the first thing that comforted her after the break up and helped hide the pain she was going through and this tends to put you in the friend zone after her real emotions kick in and she realizes she still has feelings for her ex.

As far as the waves and smiles are concerned, I wouldn't look too into this. From what I am able to understand of the situation she is just being a polite person to keep from hurting you.

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