| no dude,when u go direct then u can't go back to indirect,u can still say funny
stuff and tell dhv stories,but no negs and stuff like that, imagine a girl comes up to u,
says "hey i noticed u walking down the street and i thought u're so cute i just had to
meet you,i'm jane" and after 2 minutes of talking she goes "you and i would fight
all the time,we'd never get along" or any other neg-disqualifier,it's not congruent,
it's 2 different things,it'll confuse her if u go up to her being "prince charming"
openning direct,and then u drop that frame and start being the "badboy",so my
advice is,u either go direct,and then build rapport,talk about ur day,ask her about hers,then go to some more personal stuff,it's congruent cause u let know that
ur interested in her,so asking rapport questions and talking about urself is normal,
negging isnt.Or u can go like alex coulson does,which is he goes indirect-situational,
asking for some directions and stuff like that,and then he transitions to some
opinion opener,u can catch up some of his videos on utube,hope that helped =)
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