How do you find out what you really want in a woman besides her looks?

That's the full question,I sincerely want a thoughtful and honest answer from
you.

(further reading-u don't need to read this to answer the question

From a previous topic I started,I came to the conclusion that
if you come froma place of curiousity,if you're actually interested in getting to know her,
then you'll express that with your words,and your mind will find questions and
statements to continue the conversation,so there's no need to prepare material
beforehands or memorize routines.Knowing who you are, and knowing what
you're looking for in a woman is all you need to keep it going so you
can get to know her..and let her..get to know you.

and that's where "self-knowledge" and "screening" popped out,
self knowledge is knowing who you are,ur interests,hobbies,ur dreams,ur past achievements,etc.
I believe when you have a clear image about who you are then it's easier to express urself
to others,and let them know about you.I used to feel uncomfortable
talking about myself to others,i think because of the low self esteem i had i was
getting a feeling that if i would express myself to others,they wouldn't appreciate me.

screening is basically qualification,from gurus like sinn to moderator chief in here talk about
making a list of qualities that u look for in a woman,personality qualities and screen her for those,
let her know that u have standarts,that you don't let any type of girl in ur life.Every time i see
one of those posts about "listing qualities to qualify her" it feels like people are reinventing the
wheel over and over again,

back to the question now,i sat down yesterday for 2 hours,openned like 3 different notepads and
tried digging deep inside of me what do I really want in a woman besides her looks,guys it's much
more difficult than it sounds.When you think about it,when u realise a quality that u'd like her to
have,u have to relate it back to you in a way,so if for example ur thinking "i'd like a girl that loves
travelling,that's open to the idea of exploring new places and trying new things" what does that
say about u,do you like that because you do it,and u'd like to be with a person with similar attitude,
or the complete opposite-u don't do it,but if u can be with a person like that,then u'd feel happier?

so you see,if you can find out what u'd really want in a person,then you can also find out
more about urself, the qualities that ur looking for in somebody are related to you,
how do you believe somebody can find out what he really wants from a woman,
what type of things does he have to ask himself to find those qualities out

thanks everyone

A lot of times it easier to idenify what we DON'T want than what we DO. Especially when your experience with women is limited. Often times we don't know what we want until we get it.

The key is really volume. Meeting lots and lots of women. This gives you a point of reference and allows you to compare women to each other. It opens your eyes to the qualities you like vs. the qualifies you hate in women.

So volume is key.

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