Right, I live in England, where girls are more reserved in general. I used to use that as an excuse, but not anymore.

I was in a nightclub yesterday (see FR 4# for info), and in most nightclub dancefloors, the music is too loud to use any sort of opener, and you have to go direct. And it got me thinking, I needed a way to make an inital connection without having to shout in her ear. And then it hit me.

I had read earlier on one of these forums about how during a field report, a PUA had been saying it's crucial you look like your having a good night, your confident and you have a smile on your face whilst dancing etc (which is definately true). Now, sometimes just eye-contact and a smile work, but there are times when a girl is too busy dancing or hanging out with her friends; so eye-contact is harder because she may not be looking around too much.

The high five. It's great! This idea hit me and I tried it out on one girl who was dancing around near me, and bam! She now knew I existed, she knows I'm having a good time, it's not an 'all or nothing' approach, if she's not interested she'll still high five but maybe not show interest. But if she does like the look of you (the fun guy who's having a great night and not trying to shout in her ear) you'll have got her attention, and she'll want to dance with you. That's what I did, and it worked great for me, as I got a two-minute kiss-close. However, I think it's crucial you do it with a massive smile on your face, then it conveys the fact your a fun guy.

A couple of other points.

1) This is a direct approach and is probably best suited on the dancefloor where it's hard to speak (I need to field test it a bit more) but I'll let you know more results.
2) I think this is a fairly original approach for direct nightclub gaming, I apologise if it isn't but I haven't come across it, and I've done a bit of research on direct dancefloor game on here.
3) Do it with a smile on your face. I also found that high-fiving the most miserable looking girl either brought a smile to her face, or she would high-five and still looked miserable which I found really funny.
4) No-one doesn't go for the high-five. So far in testing it I haven't found anyone not to return it, I think you'll have to get a girl with a huge-bitch shield, or a very, very miserable person not to return it; and you don't wana hang out with those girls anyway!

I recommend giving it a try on those packed, loud dancefloors!!

Any comments/feedback would be greatly appreciated!

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Top tip buddy

just a few questions because thats the same environment i have normally when out.

when the girl has her back to your back, and you're both in your separate groups, how would you initiate the high 5?
the only way i can think of would be to push the top of her shoulder gently to turn her round half way and for me to step back and rotate to face her.

also.... i've found that girls who are interested in you will dance nearer you if you're dancing with enthusiasm and a big smile on your face, what about the girls that arent interested yet or havent noticed you yet?

i've been having trouble in this area when trying to get 8,9's and 10's, though i can get them when in a quieter situation by a quiet bar, which happens less often

Hello guys, I also live in the Uk and I have some problems on the dance floor. Like you said the music is too loud and I hate speaking to her hear.

The strategy I normally use is:

1. Get into the room with a huge smile on your face, dancing your way to the center of the dance floor. Ignore girls totally. ( I notice they start wondering why aren't you staring at her boobs and asses, they get funny and start approaching)

2. Every now and then give them a funny look (suspicious) followed by a smile and keep dancing without paying attention.

This is were I get stuck. Either we start dancing and it works cool. (never trying to kiss her straight away). Or I try some opener but then it's too loud to engage into a conversation.

Any other tips guys?


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Pedrolive

I must say I agree. I was in a dance floor in Chippenham the other night and I asked a girl to dance to which she replied ´But I don´t know you´.

I think it´s the attraction that over rides all reasoning or logic that you need to create to start something other than dancing.

Maybe you need to enhance the attraction after you have sparked it.

All I can say is that anything works better than my mates brilliant dancing followed by coming up from behind and then humping their a$$. Not cool.

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