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This is my usual opener with a girl
"How u doin?"
but i say it az if i know her.
but usually before i do that i get like a speaking block. Its not that im nervous, cuz i know that these girl like me, cuz they always stare an smile, but before i make my move im always thinking to myself what do i say after i ask/say my opener. and then i just give up and say next time because i think to long.
im not nervous, i just cant think OF HOW TO THE CONTINUE the convo and that prevents me from approaching and begin talking.
What do u guys think?
Screw how you are going to continue the conversation. You are just using that as an
excuse not to approach. Approach anyway, and even if you do freeze after saying "How u doin?" it's no big deal. At least you approached. And once you get approaching down pat THEN you can concentrate more on how to keep a covo flowing. One step at a time is my motto.
For me, I'm having quite a hard time approaching ladies. But once I start doing it consistently I won't give a flying fuck if approaching is all I can do for a good while. At least I will be approaching and getting my foot into the door so to speak. And I think things will start to get easier for me once I get over this initial hump. And that's what this stuff is, a series of humps. Get over one (e.g. approaching), slam into another (e.g. keep a conversation flowing). Get over that one slam into yet another (e.g. number closing) etc., etc. Rarely will a PUA get over all obstacles in one go. And it's not about getting over all obstacles in one go. It's about perfecting getting over each and every one to increase your chances of picking up to phenominal levels. We're effectively throwing luck out the window, and relying completely on skill.
