I've been trying to get somebody to sarge with me in Boston but it's not happening so far. So I have to do this alone because I need to.
I have no game, my approach and middle game is not good at all. I still need to do better.
How do sarging and approaching alone in a park and in the mall? Thanks

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newborn feeling good!
"[One of] the biggest risk in your life is the risk you don't take" - some guy on MTV's Jersey Shore

i wish i lived near you,but the ocean tear us apart.
i also have no game,we could improve together :lol:
actually im going on field for the first time,probably this or next week.

make it this week, the longer you hold out the more likely you'll rationalize not to go. Just screw it and do it as soon as you can. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain, never forget that

Look brotha, you already took the first step by realizing that if your going break out of the AFC role your going to have to do it by yourself and for yourself.

Now, REALIZE the first time u go out to sarge your gonna make a fool of yourself. Just learn to laugh at yourself aftewards and break down what you did right and what you did wrong and learn from it.

If your going to go to a mall or a park and try sarging, First walk around a bit and just smile at a Few HB8+ just to get the nerves down and confidence up. Next, when you find a HB you want to sarge go up to them and say something like
"nice shoe's, but i think they would look better in green, have you seem them?"
If you do this right she'll be at her hooking point then suggest to get a smoothie or coffee to isolate her, and work on est. a connection. Game her for a little until you feel like you can number close and say
"This was nice when you gonna take me out again lol" she should ask for your number then leave.

Try this scenerio and see if it works for you.

Good luck Rap

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We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves.

Dude, I dont think that anyone makes a fool of themselves. Unless you are hiddious and your mom dresses you funny you will get laid. This is all a numbers game. Lets put it this way... If you approach 20 women a year and have a 5% hit ratio you will sleep with 1 woman a year, however, if you maintain your 5% hit ratio but you approach 1000 women a year you'll sleep with 50 women. Get what I'm saying??? Further, when you approach a 1000 a year you automatically get better at it. you are getting practice and you get social intuition.

When you start out sarging, lets be honest, you have almost no game... But like with every sport there is you get better with practice. Did Tiger just play excellent golf from the day he was born? Did Michael Jordan just make hoops the day he was born. The only way to learn is through practice. The more you practice the luckier you get.

Just get out there and Game every female who you find attractive (Anything 8+ on your own scale) and enjoy the journey. To me it hasn't mattered which system I used they all pretty much have the same hit ratio, some may be better because you find them more suitable to your personality.

I realized that if I didn't approach I did not meet anyone and thus did not get laid. Any shot you dont take is a shot you've missed. Stop letting people tell you that you'll look like a fool. You can just be yourself and by approaching enough girls you are bound to meet someone who likes you. The systems just make you more interesting and they are all based on the same concept.

STOP LISTENING TO YOUR LIMITING MIND. GET OUT THERE AND APPROACH. USE CANNED ROUTINES IF YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE BUT TALK TO EVERYONE. JUST DONT OVERTHINK THINGS

okay on Wed I was hanging out with my friends. It was a very nice day after a 4-day non-stop raining in Boston. We were just walking around and of course me and my friend were checking out a lot of women. A lot of fucking beautiful high quality women walking in Newbury St.

I did 5 approaches that I really tried. Though it was fun to show that I can do it, and at the same time my friends were making fun of my undeveloped skills. So that was pretty humiliating and they talk to me like they're master pick-up-artist.
For some reason, it's easier when you're with you're friends or somebody. Even they think what I do is weird, I still feel like they kind of support me. Because they stayed with me and watched me get rejected by all of them. And it is definitely harder to get loose when you're not with ppl you enjoy being with.

So how do you get into a state and basically just have that mood of "don't give a shit". I know that it wouldn't hurt me but my logic just tells me don't do it. I feel like to approach I have to be driven by good exciting emotions. Either males or females, as humans we are (sometimes?) driven by what we feel.

At the same time, I know I'm a pretty laid back person. But I can also party and be mad energetic on the same note. From what I've learned is that when you pick-up, you at least need to have a good energy, not like a boring lazy one. I feel like it's saying basically you need to have a party feeling all the time. And I don't want to be like that all the time. I want to be able to pick-up women from low-energy environments too like the school, coffee shops, subway, and the library.

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newborn feeling good!
"[One of] the biggest risk in your life is the risk you don't take" - some guy on MTV's Jersey Shore

I am just going to give words of encouragment just go out there have fun by yourself or not I approach most of the time by myself... be with someone is not going to add value, but it is good for a support system... but either way go out there have fun with it don't think of it as a game... just try to go out and get to know some people... even that me personally I started out slow... try first going out just approach people saying hi... once ur comfortable move onto cold approach see how that works... go at it till u master it... and best advice is to have fun I notice anyone who is remotely good is because they go out and have fun with it....

I have started doing it and its uped my game so much man. There is no social pressure and no one to screw up. You can analyze what you do, get creative and fix the nicks and problems. I am getting kiss closes and I started 3 weeks ago.

Dude, I get way more closes when I sarge alone because I dont have to worry about anyone else but me.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I sarged alone today guys! It was crazy, my emotions at first got the best out of me. I anxiously walked around for at least an hour before I did my first approach. I approached at least 25 sets and half of those answered my opener.

For some reason i made this conclusion, that the 8's and 9's I tried to approach didn't even bother to stopped because of the way I look. I know that is not a good belief to have, but that stuck out to me today. I also know that I have still to effectively practice my approach. I'm doing the Neil's 30 Day Challenge, and I just finished day 3 today, which was about speech and trying to convince ppl. I have to constantly to remind my self to speak slower and pronunciate my sentences better and try to take control of the convo. Other things, I need to work on is my body language, tone and speed of my voice, and constant use of false-time restraint.

The opener that I used was, "Who lies more guys or girls?" Answers were interesting to me I thought. For those that actually stopped, I said "thank you " and just left. And sometimes I tried to keep the convo going by asking the 2 girls "so do you trust your friend?" and they get a laugh out of that. So my question is how do I keep on going or what do I say next to keep them from leaving?

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newborn feeling good!
"[One of] the biggest risk in your life is the risk you don't take" - some guy on MTV's Jersey Shore

Get drunk!

Or just work on being able to control your emotions. When I was sarging alone I realized the most important thing was actually getting started. Just chatting with people, getting in a social mood, opening an easy set. As you get some positive feedback, your vibe and attitude changes and sets open easily, then everything will be easy and natural. The first set is always the most difficult.