Alright guys help me out on this one. Let me give you some pre-info first

Target- Lets call her P. This girl just started working with me at the local coffee house. shes my neighbor and i've known her for the past couple of years. We've both been attracted to each other before but it hasn't amounted to anything due to the alternating interests thing. (ex. she likes me but im with someone else, i like her but shes got a bf.....) One positive thing in our relation is that we have opened up to sexual topics with each other before but we've never hooked up, although she has put on some nice shows before.


But lets to get to the situation

She just started to work with me at the local coffee shop and i need tips on how i could catch her attention and possibly spark the interest we've both had for each other again and take it from there

notable factors:

-she has a boyfriend shes been with for 4 months, but they fight alot and crap like that so it aint too bad

-other single coworkers flirting with her


I know there is already a thread with this title and replies with possible ideas, but i would like you guys to access this situation

thanks for the help guys

Never been in a similar situation.. But a few things I probably would do

1. Do not flirt with her the way everyone else does (Duh!), but just find a way do subtly demonstrate to her that you're not as childish when it comes to that as everyone else.

2. Use good BF-destroyer.

3. Keep it going. From what you say it seems like the thing that's keeping you apart is the fact that she has a BF. You're probably already playing most of your cards right.

thanks for the tip Domination, ill try searching the forum for some stuff on BFs and keep taking it from there. ill keep posting up updates on as much as possible

Flirt more with the other girls that work there or with customers in front of her. Also work one push-pull techniques. This will make her want you more.

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hmm thats a good one also. Thanks for the tip Rythms

I havn't been in this situation either, but here it goes....

Do what they both said. Also, if you have any female friends, give them incentives to stop by (not sure what this could be). A bit of a DHV.

Just a thought...

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Update on Girl @ Work Case 2

To start thanks for the tips Crashpad

Now for the update, i saw her today at work and just acted like i usually do, not really talking to her alot, but just enough so that i would kinda give my self a time constraint so i could build more of a comfort around her and not seem like im crowding her and creeping her out.

In addition to that i did flirt with alot of the girls that came in front of her
and i had some of my girl friends come in. I also made plans with them to go to the beach in front of her. And my girl friends are like HB9's so i guess the ability to make plans with HB's should be a decent DHV.

Another side note: I dont know if being liked at work be everyone would be the best DHV but something is better than nothing

Thanks for the tips guys. Keep Em coming

Keep up the good work. Social proof never works to your disadvantage I'm sure all those friends works as DHV's, as long as you don't give the impression of just playing them some way, so that she thinks that you're a total player

Sounds like you got this all worked out... Good luck

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