OK, so this morning I’m on my way to work. Get on the train, sit down. Book in hand (The game), Ipod in, sunglasses on (we’re on the train, it’s dark, I don’t give a shit). Across from me facing forward (across the isle, as if she’s sitting on the same row in the cinema but there’s a gap between us) hot tart. I’m thinking she was a 10 but she probably wasn’t, could just have been what she was wearing… black mack, tight skirt, tights, high heels… Mmmmmm. OK, so she keeps looking at me, glancing, I can tell. I wanna do something… my question to anyone who is listening and gives a shit is…. WHAT?

Ask for the time? Tell her I love her? Pull her hair? Punch her in the head? What?

I can get girls in the club no problem. An area I’m really interested in now is the street… or situations like this. How to do it? Any ideas?

Quite into your music it seems, how about just showing your into whatever your listening to! Start swaying then make eye contact and pull a funny face. She'll laugh, then big smile take off the headphones to talk and your in!

Sorry I can't control myself, did I distract you from the book?... etc

..what you reading etc etc... Or just open with this and put less thought towards the opener. Say you've had enough of your music and fancied a chat.

I've got a sticking point with a HB8 quite alternative lifeguard at the local pool. I never catch her at the right times, I always notice her looking my way. But when I come out of the pool and shes sitting high up I'm not comfortable with the approach plus hair etc will all be messed up and not looking my best having just come out of the pool.

If I see her before / after changing I'm going for the kill, and if I bump into her elsewhere I'm certain shes mine 'I didn't want to distract you on duty, people might start dying. Things would get messy!'

Something that works great for me when I notice I'm getting a lot of eye contact from someone is very simple.

Give her a wink or wave her over to sit beside you

_________________
no risk, no reward

Thanks guys

Walt - you're a joker, that's the kind of thing I'd say, jokes that involve a dramatric sketch tend to work for me "now you've spoken to me you at least have to dance with me, otherwise I'll never dance again [sing hook from Careless Whisper by George Michael]"

These approaches look good, it's the kind of thing I'd do in a club:

Bump asses with a girl and follow with "I'm sorry, I just couldn't resist, attractive woman have that affect on me" than go from there.

But I dunno, I think this needs to be tailored to suit the fact I'm on a train. Some thing to break the ice, a reason to talk to her... "I'm sorry but I have to ask you this..." or "Excuse me, do you mind if I tell you something..." My talking game is good once I've slid in... in almost all cases the ice breaker is "do you wanna dance", often they don't dance straight away... I break the ice and feed them some lines. I'm really after a way of breaking the ice, sliding in, that seems natural on a train/the street. I find that people in these settings always appear to be a bit more uptight and less approachable than people in the club.

Also to start with I'll feel less confident in those situations so I need something that is a bit more... erm... how to put this... something that is harder for them to easily ignore. If they feel a bit shy they're unlikely to respond fully to a jesture like a wink or a wave in my view. If I have a way to get a convo going with a question or statement than they'll find it much harder to ignore me... than I have scope to put them at ease as we talk.

_________________
You're in the presence of a living legend! Where do I begin? Well... it started with the dancing... that's how the trouble always starts...

Ha, thanks.

Hmm I think it's definitely got to be situational. Again I'm not one for rehearsing openers. A random quirky/interesting question might catch her attention. Imo you need to make her laugh straight away then she'll naturally be much more relaxed & open for the conversation in a public place (I know I would!). Laughter is the ice breaker and should elimate that awkward nervousness of public places and make the encounter seems less confrontational. How you go about getting that I'm not sure as I have a lot to work on day game. Just make it look like you're utterly content, and having a wonderful day.

Put out a few searches for day game on these forums.

http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&q= ... arch&meta=

Just thinking off the bat with your questions 'Excuse me I have to ask you something, what are you reading/listening to as you seem completely engrossed in it' Her: '*blah blah* *soap gossip*' You: Not enough drama for you in the real world?!!'


I'm cautious about your club line "attractive woman have that affect on me". I've always thought directly complimenting her looks early on is steering towards AFC'dom. You've probably carried it off due to your strong positive direct frame.

I think you can adapt it slightly to 'well dressed women/ energetic women / lively women/innocent'. Compliment her on something she has an influence over for a stronger effect. Such as her dress sense or personality.

Hey mate

Yeah, apparantly direct compliments are a big, resounding "NO!" I'm new to this (by this I mean the approaches, techniques and ideology advocated by the people on this site). I only started reading The game the Sunday before last. In there I've found a lot of stuff I've already been doing. I have to say that the direct compliments have been working for me so far. Maybe it's the way I deliver them, the context, I don't know what.

My situation is this. I come to this with some game, tried and tested techniques. I'm not starting from scratch. What I'm really looking to do is add to or integrate these teaching into what I already have. Since I started reading that book I've become aware that there is a limitless expanse of room for me to improve. Maybe tweaking the direct compliment as you suggest or even removing it completely would improve my results.

My approach tends to be very direct. I read something in the book about one of Tyler Durden's approaches, something like you keep delivering line after line after line without giving them much chance to respond. This is similar to what I do. I hit them with a barage of dialogue in the same way Joe Calzaghi boxes. Preempting them, address their concerns before they raise them "I know what you're thinking, I''ve only just met you, I won't harass you if you want me to leave you in peace, but I'm a really nice guy, you should.... yada yada yada"

My approach tends to be all about energy, fast paced. The dancing, the directness, the talking. I suppose you could call it Blitzkrieg appraoch. Hit them hard and quick... it actually works, at first I couldn't believe some of the stuff I tried did.

_________________
You're in the presence of a living legend! Where do I begin? Well... it started with the dancing... that's how the trouble always starts...