Ok I'm a chick so I guess its really easy to ask that question. But I wanted you guys to know, that girls love being approached and interacted with.

Even if a guy says something really lame or the approach totally sucked a girl is always always flattered no matter how much of a bitch she may be to you.

So I'm wondering is the main reason you don't approach or get scared to just because of rejection?

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i worry that she might not think im not aesthetically pleasing. or don't have much to say...

Typically it is the fear of rejection. Men who are new to the concept are obviously not the most confident types so they feel another rejection will just hurt them more (emotionally). I personally strongly encourage (and many others do the same) going out and getting blown out as much as possible for a weekend or so, however not doing it by going up and saying "Nice shoes, let's fuck" unless that's your normal style of game. Simply getting used to rejection and realising there's nothing to be afraid of will counter this.

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this is how i see it youl prob never see her again ,if your standing there ... you have nothing ...if ou approach her you may have something if you dont get anything your still wil nothoing ......so your in the same place where you started

SO YOU GOT NOTHING TO LOOSE...

I do not have any doubts of not being "aesthetically pleasing". I know that I'm very good looking. This as I have worked as a model and still do it every now and then. The reason why I'm nervous is more because my inner game is not the best. I'm more of a shy person and not so talkative but I'm working on my inner game. If I do approach a girl she is usually a SHB9-SHB10 as they show me that they are interested and are not so distant as the not so good looking ones.

HAF! What up, chick! I remember you from the RSD forums.

For me, whenever I get AA, it's because I'm afraid of looking like a creep. When it pops up, there's just that nagging doubt in the back of my mind that I'm going to creep the girl out.

Thankfully, this is nowhere near as big of a problem as it used to be. And it's really cool that you're telling guys this, 'cause we need to hear it.

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Prepare your asses for some mystery method shit.

When our species was first around (and since then - the exact amount of thousands of years ago is not exact) there was just tribes. Typically about 50 per tribe. Ok so your a healthy young tribal dude. Out of the 49 that is left - you need to find a mate. There will be about 25 females. So out of this 25 - some will be diseased, too old and too young. And some will not meet your replication needs, in other words they be fugly. This will leave about 2-4 potential suiters. Any one of these girls could be the tribal leaders - and if it is - and your caught hitting on her - him and his tribe will kill you. Without hesitation. And if you get lucky, and the girl you hit on isnt the tribal leaders girl - if you mess it up with her - she will tell her friends and your stuck not being able to have sex for the rest of your life. Im sure you can understand this tribal dudes fear with a threat this large. It isnt the same any more. We are out of date. Because of population explosion, we are parts of many tribes. Our brains fail to recognise this - and instinctively we believe that we are still that tribal dude. WE ARE NOT. But the rules still apply to a certain extent - just not in the same way.

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I think she's more interested in how that evolutionary stuff manifests itself in our brains when we're out. Like, yeah, we know why AA exists in that sense, but I think HAF's wondering what the experience is like.

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for me it basically came down to 3 fears:
1) fear of rejection
2) fear of the unknown (not knowing what to do also falls into this one)
3) fear of making an ass of myself (i used to be very self-conscious)

now that you said that girls like being approached, i will definitely approach a lot more than usual. thanks

For me I dont really have AA... Never really had much of it at all. The thing that may make me hesitate is that a failed approach can lower my status with other sets.

We do not really care if the girl is flattered or not, I dont care anyways. We care about ourselves and if she is a bitch to us or not. We are not in the game to flatter girls! Rejection is awkward to many people and we want to avoid it.

this is kinda wierd. i dont like people hearing my conversations for the most part(whatever they are) expect for that person. girl or girls by there selves is easy for me lots of people(families, children, old people, my parents) just seems wierd. not like judging me but listening to me.

nice hot girl tips..keep posting
boys need more girls opinion here

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so you say they are "always always" flattered if you talk to them? Like not a single girl would not like that? Or that should be "almost always"

I'm thankful that I do not have AA and never have, but I think the reason people have AA is not only because of fear of rejection, but fear of having flaws as well. If some one is shot down by a girl/guy, they may look back on themselves and see themselves as not fit enough, not attractive enough, boring, sloppy, etc. No one likes to be self-conscious, but being rejected may make you self-conscious to an extent. AA is just one way to avoid this.