| hello everyone,
I wanna share my experience. I've gone my whole life with AA and social anxiety. I'm in my 20's now. I used to go out every weekend and trying to learn the game. I'm lucky if i even make an approach or two a night. If I made even one approach, the night was a success, close or not. I tried everything. from the talk to 10 strangers in 10 mins, say hello to everybody you meet, think your in a video game, getting drunk from a couple drinks to being wasted, you name it, i tried it. nothing worked. Recently i spoke with a master NLP therapist and he told me I've only been trying to mask my problem. we had a 5 min conversation that went like this
ME: i have a problem with social anxiety, i have problems talking to people
Therapist: what do you want from other people
M: I want them to like me
T: what if they don't
M: i'm not sure, its my belief everyone does
T: is there anybody you don't like
M: yes, to the point where i don't want to meet them ever again.
T: how do you treat them
M: like anybody else
T: how do you want them to think of you
M: i still want them to like me
T: thats your problem, you need to fix your values, you don't respect yourself.
through affirmations and submodality changes and understanding my values I can now approach anybody. I've battled this AA feeling my whole life and in the last two weeks i haven't faced it once, while being sober i might add. i wish i could describe how i feel now, and its so amazing that i can't. maybe you had the same problem i did.
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