So there we were, five guys in a troop of people trying to get wasted in a crowded urban apocalypse of semi-inebreation, and a discussion loomed overhead of what to say to the ever expanding population of females. I proclaimed to my AFC friends "It doesn't matter what you say, it's all in how you say it!" To which friend1 replied "Bullshit. You gotta have something clever to say."
I exclaimed "Negative! See that redhead over there? I will walk drunkenly up to her, tell her I have a thing for redheads, and then explain that it would benefit us both if we made out, since I am a horny male."
Friend1,2,3, and 4: They have a "yeah, right" look on their face, and one of them say they dare me.
So, there I go, drunkenly (I've never approached redheads drunk before so I was a little nervous) over to the readhead, and (loud enough for my friends to hear) repeated the agreed upon statement.
She laughed, said "I'm not a true redhead."
I smiled, as I knew my point soon to be made, then acted upon my PUA insticts, "You lied to me! Horrible. I'm not even sure I want to know you're name anymore!" (C+F, by the way)
She laughed, again, and said "It's Jen (or some shit)".
=This is proof that it doesn't exactly matter what you say, but how you say it. I (drunkenly) walked up to this HB8 redhead and said some absurd shit, and since my posture was alpha, my voice was confident, my eyes were smiling, and my words were clear enough, I ended up not sleeping that night.
Uhh, when will my friends learn???!!!

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Cool, thats a textbook example of how it doesnt matter what are you saying. If anyone doubts about it, think what would happen if chris acts all creepy about it, probably he would get slapped or something.

Delivery is key, especially when it comes to openers. But content does play a part tho.

But I'm sure you're a good-looking guy which makes her interested too! It's all easier when you're good looking..

My problem is I don't know if I'm good looking, I'm tall (6ft 3in/4in), green eyes, nice smile (i believe) and ive been complimented by many friends (girls) that Im good looking but I've been rejected so many times that I don't know what to think anymore, I just think my friends say that just to be nice...

yea, but content is only 10%

remember: 60% body language, 30% tonality, 10% words

and to the poster above, first off it doesn't matter much if you're good looking or not, as long as you're at least average looking, game can take you the rest of the way. and by what you said you definately must be good looking, i've been complimented on my hair and my clothes before, but can't remember a time when a girl flat out said i was hot... i aint. but you know what i pretty much never get rejected. lose that limiting belief because it's a waste of time to dwell on it.

Looks can help, but they only get you so far.
Your female friends are saying you are good looking to be nice to you. The reality of things is that girls generally don't really care how good looking you are as long as your not out right ugly. Your being rejected for other reasons, and I bet it has do with your lack of confidence than anything else.

yes I agree. I am sure you have seen many ugly guys dating some hot women and for certain thought what the hell am better looking than him. so the sud answer your question. it's not about looks. I have confidence problem myself and there are ways in which you can improve that confidence. here are few

Work out
Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence.

Focus on contribution
Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on contribution you’re making on the “sexi gurls”, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws.

GratitudeWhen you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude.

. Dress Sharp
Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people.


you may realise this is copy and paste but certainly helpful.

manutdfan, Yeah, I guess I could pass as a good looking dude, but definitely not much above average. D_Haile03 is right on a number of things. I work out all the time (part of the job), and the focus on contribution thing is dead on. Did I care if I made out with her? Not really. I mean, I would have liked it (and I did), but I didn't care if I got shot down. Remember, the PUA is the prize, not the HB. Everything else D_Haile03 said couldn't be said any better.
Get on that shit and get out there. It's better to be called very confident to not get talked to at all...

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nice man. that def takes some balls to drop a line as aggressive as that. way to project the alpha frame. you're right, that's what its all about. one weakness and she probably would've shot you to hell, but that just wasn't the case now was it.

...and it rarely is.

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