Today, I went down town for a total of about 90 minutes. I hopped from bar to bar and it was football on every TV with people dressed in jerseys watching the games.

I notice that I never act on my thoughts. There can be the most perverted thoughts running through my mind about how I want to fuck that girl and how I want that girl to suck my dick, but I usually nothing and at best I'll say "do you come here a lot," or some other pointless small talk that leads nowhere and I've already said how much I suck at conversations. I'm going to read The Mystery Method's chapter on conversation later. It hadn't been helpful in the past, but maybe it will this time.

At one point, a group of 4 sat next to me. 3 girls, 1 guy. 1 of the girls was super hot, 1 was okay, 1 was not hot, and the guy was the boyfriend of the girl who was not hot. What should I do? I know exactly what I should do. I should befriend the guy and charm the girls, and who knows, maybe the super hot girl is down for a quick fuck. You never know unless you try. But what did I do? I sat there and did nothing. I can't take action. I am paralyzed.

Another time, I overheard a guy talking to a girl and asked her what she did. This girl, who was hot, said she lived on a trust fund. If I had better social skills, I could have befriended trust fund girl.

My mind is always racing, but I am mute.

I don't make eye contact because I'm still too weak. In the book Models, it says how a girl can tell whether a guy has "it" because when she looks him in the eye, she can tell whether he cares about his opinion of himself or her opinion of him. I am not at this point yet, but I hope I'm getting there. Also noticed that I never get close enough to smell the girls (exchange pheromones, which is very important in attraction).

Yesterday, I said how the "bar world," is not reality compared to the world where people get shot, etc. It struck me that that's kind of the point. That's why people go down town. To have fun and get away from that stuff.

I do feel like I'm getting closer. I felt some good looks, but what good are looks.

I maybe should start thinking about making friends for a harem or MLTR's (multiple long-term relationships). I feel like I'm not far away. There are just a few certain things holding me back and I can't identify them exactly other than natural introversion.

Neil Strauss said that the key to meeting women is knowing what to say and when. Well, I'm pretty sure the answer is never BEING MUTE.

Edit: I need to go back to the basics. Carry a list with me that says the types of openers. Compliment, situational, opinion, etc. What if I had the balls to give a girl a compliment? Where would that get me? But it's hard to find unique ones. Everyone has nice hair. Lol.

You cannot change what you refuse to confront.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

And what is it that I need to confront?

Simply approaching women? Okay, give me a line.

Look up the 3 second rule, I think that will help. As for openers just keep it simple. A "Hello I'm Hockey." "Cute shirt."

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Yea I'll do that.

Although I'm uncomfortable telling a girl her shirt is cute because that's sexual (see how lame I am), but I'll try.

I tried the three second rule one and I ended up standing there with nothing to say after the intro of "what's your name?"

Seems to me like you first need to learn how to be social with people in general..before even thinking about seducing women right now. I believe partly why you feel so stifled after you say the opening line to women, is because you lack basic social skills. You're trying to run before you can even walk. You're still crawling right now. What i would recommend for you is, for 6 months - just go out and talk to everyone (both men and women, young and old) for a minimum of 30 minutes a day during the weekdays. Smile , Laugh , tell stories, and crack jokes with everyone that you approach and talk to. This is how you learn how to be "Cool and Chill" - Basic Social Skills.


When you're not busy or working on the weekends..go out to social settings and events (bars, dance clubs, social clubs, parties, church, non-profit events, outdoor festivals, amusement parks, expos, job fairs, etc.) for at least a couple hours every Saturday and Sunday..just to get into the habit of socializing and networking with different people. See if you can make some friends out of it too (male and female friends), that are also willing to hangout with you. Making female friends will make you stop seeing women as only sexual objects..thus erasing the myths, prejudices and objectifications that you place on women, that only exist in your own head. So you can stop putting women up on a pedestal. Women are flesh and blood human beings with imperfections and problems, just like men.


So GO HARD on this shit for about 6 months. After 6 months..if you feel comfortable where you're at with your social skills..then you can start actively trying to seduce women. I feel that this gameplan will greatly benefit you from where you currently are with your social skills. There is no special technique for this shit. Drop the pua theory bullshit, that will only serve to put you further into your head and make you into even more of a social creeper. Go out and Take Action Today! I just laid out a gameplan for you, that you can start taking action on TODAY! Crawl before you can walk, and walk before you can run my friend.


Also step up your hygiene, fitness, style and fashion. That will help you to look more presentable and make a better impression on everyone that you interact with.


-G

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LEARNING GAME IS LAME!..Right up until the point when you will eventually see a hot girl standing or sitting right in front of you. In that moment..you will wish that you had learned game!

Thanks. And I suppose I'll be fucking prostitutes during this time.

GFRESH2DEF is right. But Ill give my 2 cents to. I flip the situation over and envision how I would like a girl to approach me. The first and foremost is a girl with confidence. One who is not afraid to talk to me, seems fun and happy. How we get to that state is a challenge a lot of us face. When you get into the downward spiral of self doubt, misery, self pitty, it will show. I admit, I have trouble myself with self negative talk. Its terrible. We must learn how to be positive and project positive energy. I honestly cant tell you how to approach a group of chicks or even one. Sometimes its easy for me, esp when im happy. But when I get into the depressed state of mind, I start doubting, I dont want to be rejected so I dont try. So like the comment above, that has to stop. The negativity is obvious. We are here to help each other. Go back into your mind to a point in time when you were successful. How did you do it? Remember we have to take risk. No risk no reward. I have to listen to my own advice even.

Even the dumbest person can sense an agenda. So have no agenda. You cannot be rejected if you have no agenda. Nothing to reject. Get your mind right boy...do you a world of good!

How can my agenda not be to get laid? Isn't that the whole point?

If it is all you want, why not go to a hooker? No, the point isn't just physical pleasure, which can be attained with your hand. Isn't there some other reason you are seeking women?

Companionship and an emotional connection?

Don't go to a hooker. I like the no agenda idea. Your agenda and your game should be subconscious.

So I should not be trying to get laid? What should I be trying to do?

Not faking it for one. Sex is an expression of Self-esteem. If you go to a hooker your just confirming that your faking your self-esteem. There are a number of other problems with going to prostitutes.

1. They won't help your game, it's like using cheat codes.
2. You can get arrested and publicly shamed.
3. Your mind will know that it's fake
4. Worse, you will refuse to recognize it as being fake forcing this knowledge down to the subconscious where it will do real damage to your life.

Self-esteem indicator - A memorable achievement that you can hang on to for your entire life.

Your problem is that you were raised with false self-esteem indicators in early childhood. Everyone got a ribbon, everybody a check + if they turned in their work. This is not real life. Your either misinterpreting your success, or your not working smartly enough to generate success. The former is an issue of paying attention to the wrong indicators. The later is a problem of not knowing which indicators to maximize.

Self-Esteem indicators can take a while to achieve but you can use S.M.A.R.T. goals to make them easier to see. Your homework, come up with 3-5 memorable achievements that your proud of. They don't have to be big and fancy.