Lately, I have become too concerned about approaching women, especially when I think about approach one on the street or in the mall. I feel like because I am not good with women and people in general, that women will always think of me as a freak or loser or a embarrassment, no matter what my approach is. Even some people I know think that I should stop cold approaching because they that it's fucking weird. What do I do?

Who gives a fuck what other people think. If talking and socializing with other people is weird, then how does anybody get to know each other? Just have fun and relax and people won't bother you if you don't think it's a big deal.

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You can't stop.

Do you dress like a weirdo? Are you clean cut?

My man, let me be very blunt with you about this. IF YOU THINK that approaching women is weird, than OTHERS
WILL THINK IT'S WEIRD TOO.

There is this thing called the law of EXPECTATION. And the law of projection is that whatever you EXPECT with
your thoughts and feelings, somehow that will become true for you.

If you approach and EXPECT that women will think you're weird, than women will just pick on it
and feel that you're weird.

And the opposite is also true. If you go and expect that women will like you, smile at you and will want to
talk to you, then you will BEHAVE in a different way - and women will respond differently to you.

Does this make sense?

For you specifically, I would suggest you do a thing I call "Planting Positive Expectations"

Your brain is currently programmed to think thoughts of "I'm weird" and "Women will reject me"

IF YOU KEEP DOING THIS, something dangerous can happen. You can literally get rejected so many
times that you give up on the idea of approaching women.

Then you're really fucked.

Instead, I urge you to do this - and I am not kidding about this.

For at least 10 minutes a day, with emotion and grit, repeat OUT LOUD to yourself these sentences:

"If I approach a woman, she will be curious as to who am I and will be interested in getting to know me"

"If I approach a woman, she will think I am confident for having the balls to approach her"

"If I approach a woman, she will want to talk to me and get to know me"

"I AM A CONFIDENT, SEXY MOTHERFUCKER!"

"I can hold a conversation with a girl while being me, because i am good enough"

I am incredibly serious about this. You need to re-program your mind to think differently, and to have
a different reactionary response to you seeing a woman and wanting to approach her.

Make sense?

Repeat these sentences for 10 minutes every morning, and really get yourself into the state.

This WILL help you, you just gotta do it.

I would also recommend you surround yourself with CONFIDENT people - be in in person, in audio
or video.

There is a lot of videos on youtube of guys approaching women, and also of guys just being confident.

Watch Elliot Hulse channel. Watch my confidence channel (in my signature) where I teach you about confidence - but more
than the words, observe how I talk, how I hold myself, how I move... soak in everything you see, and
you will automatically embody it yourself.

And by the way, if you are really having a challenge with approaching women, I invite you and
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very cult following movie, thats totally awesome .. with a very popular scene

cool runnings.. lets you know your not the only one in the world with that same problem.. when we fall off the horse, we have to sattle up and get back on it..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zFHkBQBg-4

Hey brother,

I'm terribly sorry to hear that you feel this way.

"this weakness in a time of crisis is mean and unworthy of you. How have you fallen so far from the path to liberation?" - Bhagavad gita

Let's talk about sex baby!

First, understand that you liking women is NORMAL.

that's what most people who get into this tend to forget... Most healthy normal adults date. Most healthy normal adults fuck. In addition, a man takes what he wants, and he fucks. You hear me? He does not "make love", he FUCKS.

A woman needs to feel that off you. She needs to look at you and know that if she ends up alone with you, she is going to get fucked. She is going to have her hair pulled, she is going to have her ass smacked hard and she is going to leave with bite marks all over her.

You cannot tell her this (well, you can, but bear with me here), it is something she needs to feel
. That's the problem with most guys here, and why they do not get laid. They are so logical - do this, step 3, say this at this moment and boom! Her legs will part.

It's all nonsense

It's all about how you make her feel. Everything else is irrelevant. So how do you make her feel this way about you? By first feeling it.

You need to come to terms with your desires. It can happen in two ways. You can think hard about it now after reading this, and logically come to this conclusion. Or, and this is the best way to go about it, reach your patience threshold and really just 'give up' so to speak. You will reach a point where you are tested so hard that you just shrug your shoulders and say "fuck this. Fuck what people think, fuck what she thinks. I am a man and I want her, Im not going to hide it anymore. Im going to say exactly what I think from now on" and in that moment, your success will skyrocket. But the key is that you have to feel it.

They are rooting for you!

One of my girl's told me a super interesting thing the other day. She said that if her bra and panties match, you are not the one who decided you are having sex tonight.

It got me thinking... You see, what most men forget is that at the end of the day, no matter what happens, she chooses. She ALWAYS chooses. That is GOOD news. It means that if you are man enough - if you make her feel the way she wants to feel, she will choose you. It will be effortless and beautiful. It won't feel like you're climbing up a steep muddy hill. It will feel light, fun and exciting.

Want the best news of all? She's ROOTING FOR YOU DUDE!

Women don't sit around thinking 'hmmm, which guy can I blow out today?' instead they are actually thinking "please please please dont let this one be a loser. PLEASE be cool!!" They are SO tired of the same idiots over and over and over. They WANT to be seduced, they want to be wowed, they want to be taken on an adventure.

So take it easy mate, have fun, and get out there
how else will you meet the girl of your dreams?

Mack

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Wait, men should always decide on everything, even in regard to romance and sex. This used to be much more obvious back in the old days. It didn't even matter what the woman thought or felt. I am not saying that men are entitled to rape women. Of course not. However, it's the idea that men have always been expected to lead and decide over women (unless she happens to be your boss at your workplace, then that's a different story). This has been a fact ever since time in immemorial.

Now, I know what I just said sounds contradictory to what I have said about me wasting women's time. However, I feel so confused on what to do, because this whole thing has become much more of a complicated venture than I expected it to be previously.

Ignore what The_Mack said, he needs to change his mindset before he goes on advising others. Who the fuck is Baghat or whoever he quoted lol. I would like to quote David De Angelo when he said "Attraction isn't a choice". Sure, the woman will decide if she wants to open her legs or not but its the man that makes the ultimate choice. Also fuck what she feels, that is such a loser mindset to have...like imagine in the interaction with her, your thoughts are like "did i make her feel i want to fuck her and not make love to her" oh no i didn't, i gotta feel that first..grabs crotch...too funny. Oh and this is so fucking creepy "She needs to look at you and know that if she ends up alone with you, she is going to get fucked"....that is some serious rape and criminal mindset you have got going on dude. What the ??.

Anyway, REG720...you should get rid of the people who told you approaching is weird if you can because it will get hard for you to be in a positive mindset. Approaching becomes a hundred times easier when you have a wing or friends who also want to get good in the game. And yes, people will think all sorts of things about you but they will do that even if you don't approach. You can never stop that. Besides, people are actually busy thinking about themselves and how others may judge them, it is ridiculous. Our mind blows our fear of being judged so out of proportion, do this. Ask a bunch of random people who you think are judging you and i bet more than half of them will tell you they were thinking something nice about you or something you are wearing and the rest of them will be thinking of themselves. I know because i have had the same fears.

Black Phantom has good advice, our mind projects what we think. Make a constant effort to think positive thoughts and outcomes and that will happen. Watch "The Secret", there is some truth in that.

I do street and mall pick ups.

It is hard psychologically, cause everyone are mobile and it isnt easy to get them engaged.

I am 31 in a week and psychologically I am hard than ever. Adapt a risk taking philosophy..that would make you go out and approach.

Do long sessions instead of short frequent sessions. Long sessions are better at increasing confidence and reduction in fears and distorted thinking.

Use positive affirmation.

My positive affirmation is..

"Everything is a feedback".

300 rejections worth a lot of pua/social skill. <- remember that.

It is all about psychology. Look at that rapper..one of russian top rappers. He isnt good looking, his voice isnt that great. But he has 17 years of rapping experience. After a few years you will see the rules of the game.
Having self-esteem problems will reduce your inner game.. but majority of us dont have a perfect self-esteem.

You need to concentrate on abiding by the rules of the game and bite the bullet instead of being preoccupied with what everyone around you think.

I think it's useless to give Reg advice.

He knows the answer to this post already. I know because we talked to him in chat about this before he posted it.

From what people say he's been asking these exact same questions for almost or over a year, getting the same answers, and then asking the same question over again.

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That is because some people think that there some magic method or pill that you apply/take which makes your inner game flawless.

You cant fight self-esteem problems and fears completely. It is so hard and unattainable. But you can accept those and still game successfully.

Sure you can:

Inner Game of the Magi

I will say this though. It takes a TREMENDOUS amount of effort, and most give up and accept flaws, thus being defeated by them.

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15 years of therapy... wasted tons, tons of money...
Freudian, Lacanian, Conductist, Systemic ....

It's all bullshit. I come to the first one when I was 15 years old (forced by mother) .. Up to this day when I tell a therapist that I have AA, they don't even know what it is.

STAY AWAY FROM THERAPY IF YOU WANT TO SOLVE AA, THEY WILL STEAL YOUR MONEY

Therapy did help me with my creativity and to pursue my vocation. But after 15 years I can approach a woman.

Agreed

However I was referring to something else then AA. Something really bad

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