Why guys,


I've been doin some online gaming in Slovakia ever since I moved here. Recently I met a girl at a party but she was a hostess so I could not speak to her.

Long story short found her on badoo a couple of weeks later. We exchanged around 3 messages and she told I should come down to her place of a work: a sweet shop. Anyway I end her a messages saying I was about to fly and that I could not down and told her I'm coming back on Friday to meet then.

She has replied for over 6 hours and she read the message... Should I wait a week to get back in game?

hey, don't wait too long, if she don't respond just write to another girl

Just a hunch...

But after THREE messages you said "Hey I should come down to where you work"...????

That's aggressive. She was probably creeped out.

No she asked me to go, here is how it went down. I just followed frame. Blue is me.


Hmmm, you are strangely familiar... :/ have we me before?
it is funny but yes, we meet on Wine Tasting I was there like a hostess
Yes!!! of course the pretty girl serving the wine! but you have pastry chef listed on badoo, or are you only trying to tease the guys on badoo
no I really work in hotel like pastry chef
** Sent two photos of herself proving she is a chef **
do you believe me now?
hmm... Nope, for all i know it could have been a carnival party themed "chef"
haha yes of course the calnival prty
carnival*
and out of curiosity. What type of desert do you make that is just incredible, and don't say "anything I make is perfect' that's cheating
lemon cheese cake One of my favourite. But I really make good deserts and cakes I am working in XXXXX, you should come to try.
Do you always lure guys to your sweet shop like this?

But on a more serious note, as nice as that sounds, I am flying in a few hours, I am coming back on Friday. Let's meet up when I'm back, we can grab a drink and discuss the prospects of being lured to your sweet shop

Ok, that certainly adds context.

She does not sound creeped out. You may have been aggressive in asking for a meetup. There really wasn't a whole lot of back and forth there. I can't even tell if there's attraction or not.

The last line is a little much... sweet shop? LOL. Anyway, you were all good up until then.

Something more firm like "I'm back Friday, how about a drink on Saturday night?" may have been more effective. It's a solid question instead of a vague, general idea about what you want.

Yeah,

I will see her at the party in a couple of weeks anyway. However attraction I believe happened at the party and she escalated quickly with the come and see me at the the shop business .

Yeah the whole sweet shop was a little on the lamo side now that I note. I am new to the online dating world attract hot chicks but seem to strike out before the meetup, dunno why yet.

Thanks for the help ill update if anything new progresses.

Latest Update.

I met her at a party, I ignored her for the most part. I then went to smoke with a friend of mine and she came and sat at the table, the friend left and she stayed. She explained that she went off badoo because of weirdos, but she said " Not you but, like I know you" I flirted with her and ignored her, we then walked to a club together with her arm in mine. At the club I spoke to plenty of other women even landed a couple of phone numbers. At the end of the night I was sitting next to her but did not manage or try to close her. I then asked for her number and she said " You can find me on facebook: In response i told her "I won't bother." and went on to speak to another girl.

Today she messages me on Badoo saying " Sorry, I did not see your message! " in fact she had seen it, because it marks messages as read. I am ignoring her right now she messaged me at midnight last night.

Any ideas on locking this one down. She is 20 and I am 27, also she is Serbian.

Nope, move on she isn't interested.

Cut your losses and don't make the same mistakes next time, I will help with the errors in the next post.

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Your communication is very girly and ''nice'' basically you are cutting your self in the knees before you have even begun.

She is a validation whore and you are feeding her with validation, but I don't see interest on her part.

Next time, send out a lot of openers to different women, and in the third message, GENERALLY, you want to be shooting for the moon, that means you have to set up the meet. Her response will then tell you everything you need to know about her, is she sexually interested in you, or keeping you as a friend? orbitor?

You met her in person, and she wasn't interested, she doesn't see you as a lover. She sees you as a free way of getting attention, without giving you an inch of what you want, albeit to fuck her.

Why were you ignoring her at the social gathering? it doesn't make you seem aloof and it was just wasting your time. Women will know through your responses what type of man you are, if she likes you, she will MAKE the effort. Being aloof in general is a good thing, but she wasn't chasing you, so getting other girls numbers WAS the correct thing to do, well done. Why didn't you stay in those sets and escalate to a kiss with them? or indeed escalate and bring them home to your place!

Important: do not go to non-sexual dates, next time meet 1-to-1, and I mean the NEXT girl.

Move on from this girl. She sees no interest in you.

BTW I seen a few replies saying not to set the meet quickly, and that is nonsense, setting the meet QUICKLY is the best way you can know if she is just using you for free attention or she is interested.

I hope that helped.

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Yeah seeing it from an outside point of view I agree. She was enjoying getting a lot of attention at the party. Obviously she is F-ing hot. At this point the best choice with this girl is close her on friendship and use her to lure other women she seems like the type of chick that will be happy to do that and she is looking fro friends as she is new here .

I got other girls phone numbers, did not manage to close any that night, but managed to F-close on Sat and Yesterday. So I am doing oki... just hate it when one gets away but I have many times in the past managed to change things around so we will see. The reality in any PUA situation is that if she is still reaching out to you, when you basically shut her down there is still a chance albeit small.

Props on the lay man!

The harsh reality of pua is this: Game is about minimising your losses, not maximising your wins.

The reality of game is, you will find a woman you fucking love, and you will fuck it up due to lack of experience, but it will make you smarter and stronger, NEXT TIME. Game will expose you to all sorts of dynamics, and through experience, you will learn.

Bro, do not spend anymore time on this woman. It's not about whether there is a small chance or not, it's about teaching yourself how to behave in the FUTURE, It'll train your MINDSET.

What you could do, shoot her a text with the following. ''Come over to mine for drinks, I'm free tomorrow and maybe on sunday.''

Then she either agrees, or you NEXT forever. The reason I don't recommend keeping her as a wingwoman is BECAUSE you have sexual interest in her, but never landed her, so her value will be tripled in your eyes, albeit subconsciously, and your chances of developing oneitis is severe.

Goodluck!

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Great word's Mr Ruthless.

I decided to ignore her on Badoo. Did not think it was worth the effort! If it happens with her great if not, whatever. I am sure I will be seeing more of her and I will just focus on other women and if she really wants it she can come and get it.. I will consider it then based on my current options.

People rarely hook up with girls they REALLY wanna fuck.

It really is playing the numbers game and just treat every girl the same and see which ones dig you the most and capitalise.

As soon as you think one is special, it will repel her and you have already toast.

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In general, meaning your average male, or someone just learning game. (Don't hook up with women of their choice.)

It's a numbers game, indeed, but the trick is, to only SARGE women who are hot, that means then the only girls you will fuck will be at least 7+ (7+ is a bare requirement she must have in looks, a personal rule.)

online, I only message hot girls, this eliminates ugly women. Daygame, yup you've guessed, 7 or higher.

It's a numbers game, but the choice is MINE, at the end of the day.

There was a really interesting piece by Patrice o Neal back in the day about choice. On the show he was hosting, the woman said that women have all the choice, but he said, in a way women do, but ultimately women have NO CHOICE. A woman has to just stand there and look pretty to get approached, she can't really take action, but a man must work on himself, visualise an image of what he would like to become, and then become it. A woman has never talked herself into ANYTHING! a woman has never had to talk herself into sex. A man who is good with women has all the choice, because if one women doesn't shape up, he MOVES the fuck on. He doesn't waste time on ''no's''

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