| Welcome to this amazing community Andrew, I've loved it here and I know you will as well.
There are so many tips/techniques I don't even know where to begin.
I also must say you are one lucky bastard! You could have women everywhere, it's sad that over-thinking things and you worrying about what people think is holding you back from such GREATNESS.
As I just said a second ago your problem is over-thinking, obviously you've seen these women go out of their way to get next to you and make contact. That is a sign of your worth...your value is high.
Even if women didn't do this you must be confident and still remain a high value within yourself. Your value/worth doesn't come from others, it comes from your own state of being. As you've already said you have a great personality so USE IT.
Just think about it this way that you are a superstar and they are a fan and even on a side note they are still human. Females are humans, just like males. I'm sure you have no problems talking to men so what's the difference except them having an attractive appearance? They are still human. Your problem is that you put them on such a high pedestal maybe knowingly or maybe unknowingly.
I also would like to say that another problem you are facing is obviously a lack of kino which I've deducted as fact by your case of anxiety. Kino is the art of touching which is where you progress into sexual stuff such as making out and then you take it from there (which doesn't just make her become more open to sexual things, but also makes it easier for you) I'm wondering when you entered that one girl's house did you make out or even kiss? Highly likely the answer is...NO
Following that up with a tip is don't fret over not having sex or having sex. Just take it one step at a time, but you MUST act in some way to create attraction. If you don't have sex with this one there's always another chance...either with her or another girl. Don't stress over sex. Play the attraction game and have fun.
You touch her on the arm, the gently poke her when you lose her attention, even touch her hair if things progress well, the woman will not scream rape unless you are forcing yourself on her. And I think that's one thing men forget. It's natural to touch someone that you find interesting, just take it slow and do it in the right places on the body and then proceed if things go EXTREMELY well over time, you shift to the sexual places on the body by her guiding you with signs.
I also have to say that you need to be laid back and just cool, don't stress because it will make you look weird. If you aren't sure of yourself others wont be either including women. These women already like you and are attracted to you so you just have to get over this mental worrying.
So be calm, flirtatious, confident, and instead of not acting on anything, start acting on things even if it's small because that way you can eventually progress with either that woman or another, but DON'T procrastinate.
Something I'll say is that you need to just take her as someone who is human that you are showing interest in by having a good conversation, flirting a little and making sure that she knows you ARE interested more than just a friend, but you don't have to go out of your way to have sex because obviously you're not there right now. You're at the level of getting your feet wet. You are learning how to rid yourself of stress and if you are stressing regularly, just imagine how sex would be right now.
Also about your eye, appearance is that...appearance. All you can do is put on the best clothes you can get, the best cologne you can get, make sure you take care of your hair, face, and clean up when you go out everyday. But say if someone is overweight, you can go out and exercise, but you're not going to be able to lose 30 or 40 l.bs overnight and the same goes for any conditions that can't be changed.
You have to focus on being the best YOU possible and that's really all of any of us can do. It's not about changing your personality completely, it's about strengthening it into a confident person who has no problems talking to anyone so that you can enjoy life and women
There are many techniques of flirting that I know and things that I've said here that I know with greater details that may help, but this is a HUGE START.
One great technique that most people here know is the JUST DO IT technique...you start thinking about this and that and all these reasons for not doing things instead of just doing whatever it is, this is usually pertaining to approaches, but it works for other things.
I hope this gave you some kinda insight, I know it's long...mine usually are because I want to give the best details possible, but this is just a tip of the iceberg. PM me if you need anymore advice and please give a situation so I can help you best. Good luck.
NOTE: Also a good conversation starter "Hey, how is it going?"... I know a very, very simple solution to a complicated problem, or even more simple "Hey" "Hi" "Hello"
Approaching multiple women with just a greeting over the course of days and weeks and making yourself JUST DO IT can help you get rid of anxiety because it will then be natural and no longer "scary" in your mind. This is a technique that has been on this site and elsewhere. Even if it is females that you aren't completely into it wont hurt to say hi, but it will benefit you (it's a mental thing) Also if they are approaching...ask them about their day and be interested in them and what's going on with them, don't be creepy with questions, but be INTERESTED. It's a game, it's supposed to be fun...always remember that.
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