| There is no magic solution, except PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE. You need to be pissed enough about frustrations in your game that you finally go out and say fuck it, I don't care what people think of me anymore, I want more women in my life and I'm going to put in the practice to make it happen.
DO NOT START AT A BAR/CLUB. GO TO THE MALL and start going up to people. GO up to anyone, women, man, old, young. Just PRACTICE and get used to approaching strangers. Ask someone the time. Ask an employee for advice on what to get your friend/parents/relative for their birthday. Ask a female employee which shirt would like good on you.
If you get out there and start approaching strangers in a public place like a mall, your approach anxiety will begin to disappear completely.
Again, it'll help if you have the "fuck it, I don't care what people think" attitude, but that in itself is not enough. If you have that attitude but you have not practiced enough, you will go to a bar and probably just freeze up. On the other hand, if you have spent hours at the mall approaching maybe 50-100 people over a couple weeks, you will be so used to it that it will be easy at a bar/club/anywhere.
After practicing approaching strangers and decreasing approach anxiety, you can start learning some specific openers and routines to make your conversation go smoothly. But don't even worry about learning routines until you've learned to manage your approach anxiety. You can't use a routine if you can't even approach in the first place.
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