I was wondering. Sometimes women give me a specific shit test(at least I consider it a shit test it could be an IOI)that I can not pass. This is the shit test...

HB:Come dance with me.

If anyone could assist me I'd appreciate it.

This aint a shit test. Its a demand 'compliance test'. But dont let this worry you its no biggy.
The good news is, from my experience this is a clear IOI. The amount of times a girl has asked me to dance and then snogged my face off on the dance floor, they have their own ways of doing things too. Dont worry about this one and be on the look out for proper compliance tests. And dont jump through her hoops.

"Hey, I ain't no dancing monkey....What are you gonna do for me first?"

I would agree with Mozy. It isn't a shit test, it's a IOI and also a complainance test. It's like putting her hand on your leg.

A shit test would be a remark or a statement said from her like:

HB: "Can't you tell I don't like you?"

or

HB: "Why are you so ugly?"

or

HB: "I'm not your type. You'll be better off with some other girl!" or "Why did you talk to me when there's so many other women around here?"

Hope this straightens things out!

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HB:Come dance with me.
You: Huh? Wait are you a man?
HB: Uh...?!? No!
You: Ok. I'm the man I lead. (Big Smile)

[Take her hand and start walking to the dancefloor.]

It is going to make a difference whether this is some random girl, or one you've been sarging. If she's random, then I'd flip it and make her come to me. If you've been talking to her for a bit, then I'd tell her to wait till I'm done my drink, or till I'm done talking to some guy, or something, to show that she's not going to lead me around on a leash.

Another option, is to tell them that they're gonna have to show you some moves first, cause you're not sure if they're gonna make you look bad or not.

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what are good ways to reply to this??

A good response to what's above is for example:

HER: Can't you tell I don't like you!
PUA: Who said I liked you anyways!

--- or---

HER: You're so fucking ugly!
PUA: Thanks, so are you!

---or---

HER: You're weird it's pathetic!
PUA: Weird for you is just a understatement. The word eccentric fits me best!

Does this help?

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Let me rephrase what I'm trying to articulate earlier. How do I get into a women's head to the point were she doesn't even think about dancing? I don't like to dance because even though I have a little rhythm I feel I'm no longer in my comfort zone on the dance floor.

You really don't need to be dancing, but when a girl directly asks you to dance, then it's because they want to get close to you and get a feel for what you're gonna be like sexually speaking. Whether they consciously think it or not, they are gonna compare your dancing to how you will be in bed. If you tell them that you don't dance, then you're gonna say that you're not good in bed.

So, unless anyone has some good lines for making a girl be cool with not wanting to dance, I'd suggest you spend some time just learning to be comfortable on the dance floor. You don't have to be good, just be comfortable.

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totally agree Rye!

It's a compliant test to see if you're really comfortable under you own skin. If you feel awkward then she'll feel akward and uncomfortable. The reason why she asked you to dance is because she probably wnats to get to knw you better as well more in depth and how condient you are. Women do these little test to gauge what kind men we say we are. If they detect anything that jacked then we'll get the shaft. So women constanly subconsciously test whether or not a man can omit to others, be leader of men, and also a protector. Those three things are the things women look for in the men. If you don't learn to dance then you're not confident there for just like Rye said you're probably bad in bed. Woman also need a man that has sexual confidence; if none then you'll most likely be unattractive to her.

The only way to build up confidence on Dance floor is to try what you're afraid of. Who knows-you might attract other women as well with your moves. I don't like to dane because I think I'll look like a idiot. But people have told me I have good rhythme. However, if I'm dancing with a girl (grinding) you def. bet that I'm gonna shoot her interest out the roof.

I know this is long but I'm hear to help as well as other PUA's are. Next time a girl grabs you by the hand she's being dominate in the situation. She's being in control and controlling ur frame by using compliance tests. Get on the dance floor, hold her close with her leg between you and your leg between her. Don't even focus on that AFC voice of, "I'm gonna fuck up!" Just have fun and enjoy the high you'll get from experiencing dancing with a HB. It will get you excited as well wanting more and more. You can gain dominance over her by grabbing her hand and taking her to sit down to another location. THere is already attraction there or unless she want some attention to make the girls jealous and women will do that! Women are very competive as well. They will compete with each other and make sure to get each other pissed off. In order to raise the competion more she might kiss you or make outwith you.

Also another tip: Let the music move you! Listen hard to the music and let all your bones move to the music. I was dancing with this one chick, I got into trance mode where I was really rocking the place. The guys were laughing because they never saw me dance like that. Later she asked where did I learn to dance like that? That was a IOI and also peaked her sexual interest.

I'm done standing on my soapbox. HOpe this info helps and peace out!

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in clubs, dancing is a must. its fun.
I love it when my friends tell me that all the chicks were checking me out when i was dancing with that girl. Its flicking the attraction switches. Also great for kino.
Like anything it just takes practice, dont care so much what they think just go for it. Tip: only dance to the good songs, if some shit comes on stay away unless you want to look like a twat. You need them to grind and get up close, if they dont like to bump and grind then cause them too.

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Oh and also if they say you dance like a crazy person, say 'i dance to the beat that no one else can hear'. Just show them you dont care.
You can play with this and say something like 'listen carefully' move your body with the music slightly 'now thats what im dancing to'. Then show them a few dance moves and get them to copy.
I never used to be that comfortable with it, but the more i went clubbing, the more became cool with it.
(It sounds like im going off topic now, im still talking about dancing)

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Stealth, a compliance test is about whether or not she can wrap you around her finger, not whether you are comfortable in your own skin. This test, just has 2 parts to it.

You need to decide how compliant you want to be based upon how she is acting towards you and how compliant she is to you, but you also need to demonstrate that your choice doesn't have anything to do with a fear of dancing or anything. Girls don't like guys that fear dancing, cause it is a silly insecurity to have, over something that people are generally quite accepting of, plus it shows that you are insecure about your body and probably bad in bed because of it.

Also, a lot of guys seem to think that just because a girl gives a compliance test, you should always demonstrate dominance and take control of the situation. This isn't necissary. When a girl is behaving the way you want, she's complying with your frame, showing IOIs and everything is going well, or at least almost everything, then complying with her is fine. If you think that a good relationship is being the one that gives all the orders, you're gonna have a hard time keeping a girl. You need to have a give and take, so if she's playing along with your routines and joking with you and such, then when she asks you to come dance with her, it's a good thing, so comply and show her that you are interested back. Without giving that SOI, she's gonna think you aren't interested and lose interest herself.

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Well first of all, it's almost impossible to make a fool of yourself on the dancefloor. The only demand on the dancefloor is that you keep moving. No matter how you do it (an overstatement, but even so.)

if you absolutely dont want to dance you can simply tell her (be a bit dominant): "Maybe later, come here and sit on my lap" Or something like that. Tell her to come with you outside to get some fresh air or something. I've done it and if you have played your cards right earlier it should be no problem.