Howdy guys,
I'm not completely new to the pickup game, done a lot of reading on it and posted on a few forums but I never was serious about it. I want to change that after today.

I was in a class and we went to an art gallery to observe the art, while we were being instructed before this I caught eyes with a cute girl. I had made it my goal to approach her in the art gallery, sounded easy enough at the time. I had the perfect opportunity to approach, she was standing by this unique piece of art observing it writing her thoughts about it down, as I was going to do the same. I bailed though, split second. I was sweaty and just lost my confidence, which is odd for me.

Managed to get out of there without pulling to much attention to myself, and came back to force myself into it the approach. Unfortunately there was another guy who came in after me, and he seemed to hit it off good with her. I've been getting after myself since, passing up a beautiful girl due to something so irrelevant.

Anyways, this may be posted in the wrong forum and may need to go into the anxiety forum, but I'll put it here. Is there any sort of routine I can do that will help me build up my flakeyness on approaches? I'm going to reread magic bullets and the like as well, but any personal strategies and advice would rock.

Thanks guys
-Snowball

Probably has something to do with how you 'define' success...
Break it down.
If you approach her and open your mouth and say something, you've succeed no matter the outcome.

Define your success as taking the action....
Then once you get 'good' at opening, then work on the conversation, then creating comfort, so forth

You have to align your thoughts, words, and actions.

Yes, you have the thought "I want to approach hot girl." But, you also have other thoughts like ... what if she rejects me ... what if her boy friend is here ... what if others are watching and I embarrass my self ... what should I say afterwards ... Will she kick me in the balls ... what if she is under age ... what should I say to make her laugh ... what if I take her home and she laughs at my penis size .... etc etc etc ....

The longer you wait the more thoughts and assuming the worst you will conjure up causing you paralysis ... this is what we call Mental/Success barriers. It is human nature to assume the worst when faced with the unknown.

For example, if I said do you want to fuck Megan Fox? Of course people will say yes I would like to fuck Megan Fox. But, if Megan Fox did come near you ... you wouldn't be having a boner ... instead you'll think of other hindering thoughts like ... I hope she likes me ... what if I embarrass my self in front of others ... what if her boy friend is here ... she wouldn't like a guy like me.

This is similar to when a sports team is predicted to win the championship. The pressure of meeting everyones expectation causes to much pressure on the team resulting them in choking in the finals.

Therefore, have you ever heard of the 3 second rule? When you see hot girl ... approach within 3 seconds before you start to think of assumptions of the worst scenarios ...

- If you are in the clubs ... approach everything from hot girls, to fat girls, to ugly girls, to old girls ... approach everything in your line of sight to train yourself to approach with out considering reasons not to approach ... after you've approach ... don't take a break approach immediately to another set ...

Final instruction to give you ... don't over think your interaction when approaching ... Concentrate on putting your whole awareness to just saying Hi ... or tapping on the girl's shoulders to get her attention ... that is it ... don't think of anything else ... when you do say hi ... or tap on the girl's shoulders to get her attention ... follow up on the next step of saying your name ... then follow up with the next step of offering a hand shake ...

The idea is to not over think things ... n' just focus on baby stepping your process ...

If you ended up not following the above instructions ... n' you allowed your self to think of unnecessary thoughts ... ask your self: "What is the right thing to do?" or "What decisions can I make to get me closer to my goals."

- You see you have two decisions you can take ... you can either approach which will bring you closer to the man you want to be or you can not approach which will bring you farther away from your goals.
- Pick up is like a muscle ... therefore, approach to gain experience ... the more you approach the more reps you are doing to make your pick up muscle grow ... or you can do nothing or run away ... training your muscles of being a pussy chode who will never get the girl he wants mine as well turn gay ...
- Therefore, approach to get reference experience ... This is how I got so good really fast ...
ex: All the hot girls has left the clubs ... There is only an old fat lady dancing ... she may have even puked a little on her self and smells a little funny. Most guys would go home ... but not I ... I would approach and commit to the girl. I would follow my process of doing whatever I can to leave the club with this girl, lead her to my bed or hers ... and when she has spreaded her legs waiting for me to insert my penis into her ... I would say sorry I can't get in the mood ... u have to leave now. I do it for honing my process ...
- Approach fat ugly girls if you must ... at least you got reference experience ... you don't have to fuck them or go on a date with them ... just use them to hone your pick up muscle. So when you do see the girl you want ... you know what to do ... you don't even think ... pick up becomes natural because you've repeated it so many times already!

Sincerely,

Donston