Had a great 2nd date with a girl on Saturday night. We went to dinner, comedy show, then two bars after and then my place for make out session. She wouldn't sleep over, I guess I kind of respect that. Not trying to date a ho. Anyway, we got pretty drunk and she left around 4 am. I didn't text her at all on SSunday, but did today and of course am concerned that my response back to her was lame. What do you guys think? I'm also open for suggestions on what I could have said as a better response. An hour response in between texts so nothing was forced or came out too needy.

Me: small dinner + many drinks = not smart. How was your hangover
her: It was a pretty absurd assortment of drinks to say the least
me: haha yes quite potpourri

Haven't heard from her since and probably won't on this topic. Do I just leave it alone now and start a new topic in a few days? Wait for her to initiate?

Bit of a conversational dead end. Texting should always lead to trying to get day 2, that's what you need to try and do, get her face to face again. But I would also recommend building more comfort if you do get that day 2, since she might be apprehensive that you're just going to go for a full on makeout session. Escalate, but also don't forget comfort and rapport.

I sent a text message to set up a date. She didnt respond so I sent a follow up one day later. This is how it went:

Me: Do ou remember the name of that Peruvian restaurant the guy was talking about? I was thinking we could go there this weekend

24 hours later

Me: It's called Sazon and looks great. Can you do Saturday?

Her: Hmm, haven't heard of it. I talked to him bout Panca and La Mar. Both great and have been to before. One of them a friend of a friend owns.


Uhhhh, wtf? no answer of my question. I didnt respond.

I responded with:

....So am I taking you out Saturday, or are you spending another night alone?

We didn't end up going out but she did respond. She actually asked what I was doing Friday night instead, but I had to work late. the following week I texted her saying I was going out of town and that we should get together when I get back. She responded almost immediately and was enthusiastic about it. So I called her when I got back and she responded 24 hrs later saying she was just leaving work and it was a crazy week, so I just let it go. Didnt follow up and she texted me the next evening asking what I was doing. I responded saying out with a few friends and asked if she was out. She responded that she was out, but for work drinks. I then told her to meet me at the bowery hotel bar at cinderella 30 (which means 12:30 am). And she did not respond.

I'm wondering to myself why she never responded. Why would she even reach out again that night if she had no intention or interest in seeing me?

Havent heard from her in 2 weeks, and want to reconnect. Usually I just let these things go and move on. Only reason I am not is because I really like her.

I would like suggestions on if I should reconnect and what would I even say since its been two weeks?

Come in w/ a short, light & breezy text about how busy you've been / the exciting stuff you've been doing. Arrange a meetup.

Regarding the night you were texting her, who knows, maybe she was asleep when you sent the text or w/e.

Thanks for your advice. Could you give me an example of a text I could send that fits that description? Short, breezy, light, involves how much ive been busy / exciting and arrange a meet up all at the same time. I feel like that can't be short and I would just overwhelm her.

Much appreciate your help!

You're taking too long...no contact in 2 weeks is not good. But you can still give it a shot. Just send her a simple text: "What have you been up to?" Don't try to extend this into a conversation, it's just small talk to re-initiate contact. Set a time and place to go on another date. If she doesn't respond, text her a couple hours before the date and say you'll be 15 minutes late. Still no reply = on to the next.

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I dont think what are you up to is a good text. any other ideas? I do agree that two weeks has been long, but I want to at least say something along the lines of how busy ive been

Text 1: "heyy u, some crazy shit has happened in the last couple of weeks!!" or something along those lines.
(If she doesn't reply to this then NEXT the fuck out of this girl lol)

Text 2: "ill tell u about it over a drink on Xday."

If she declines and doesn't offer a reschedule, get a reschedule from her right there. If she won't commit to that next her or ping her one last time in a week or so.

Ideally you meet up at your place instead of de-escalating the venue.

Ok, is there a certain time of day I should send it or not send it. It is 9pm where I am now. Could i send it now or too loser ish on a Saturday night? Maybe sunday afternoon would be better?

Love ya brah but you're getting deep into the details. When you have a plethora of women you don't worry about a little text mishap here and there. You need to loosen up your game and the only way to do that is to talk to more girls. Send the text whenever you fucking feel like it, you're the man you call the shots with this girly. Hope that helps your overall approach to the game.

I texted her saying "besides stealing other peoples reservations and tater tots what kind of trouble have you been causing?"

She wrote back saying "haha I'm glad I've developed such a good reputation. Just got back from NC. You?"

How long should I wait to respond and please help me with what to write back.

shes not interested, but she will likely send you these silly texts that go no where as it makes her feel better about you make out session, or whatever else she regrets doing with you. Your best bet is to stop all your try-hard texting then let her re-initiate. She probably wont contact you again but if she does ask her for a time shes available, be firm, and go from there.

And stop being ridiculous by trying to fuck girls, then when you dont get laid saying shit like "I respect her more cuz shes not a ho" It;s guys like you that make it harder for guys like me to fuck more chicks on the first date saying silly self-serving hypocritical shit like this.

This. Get her to meet up again or move on. As detox75 says, meandering 'text game' is for the birds.