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| Camocountryguy55 | PostPosted: Sat Nov 23, 2013 5:20 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Sat Nov 23, 2013 5:08 am Posts: 2 | | There is this girl in Petsmart by me that works there. I have talked to her about reptiles and what I want but when it comes to asking her is she would like to go on a date or hang out I can't is there anyone that can help me?
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| GingerLove | PostPosted: Sat Nov 23, 2013 6:57 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Sat Nov 23, 2013 6:24 am Posts: 7 | | From my experience it seems that you are having trouble "making a moment" and in all reality it feels awkward, but there are a lot of guys each day probably thinking the same thing as you, and none of them have the guts to ask her out.
Take a chance and just ask her, but be prepared for a yes, and follow it up by asking her what day's she is free. Make sure you know where you want to take her, and be confident. (don't fidget or let your voice squeak) just ask her in a stable voice the way that only you would.
The worst thing that could happen is her saying no. But if you don't ask her, it's already a no.
Hope this helps
-GingerLove
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| Chiseler | PostPosted: Sun Nov 24, 2013 9:03 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Sun Nov 24, 2013 8:19 pm Posts: 7 | | Ginger love is right. Make a "moment" before you act, and only act if you are able to get a few IOI's. As for actually asking the girl out, you might want to try and get her contact information first, and then invite her out later. David D has a good routine that has always worked well for me. After your encounter with her (if she exhibits IOI's), as you turn to leave and walk away, turn back and say "hey do you have email?" (as if it is an afterthought). She answers ...yes. "Great, write it down". And have her write it down or punch it in your smart phone. After she does, say "I'll get a hold of you, see ya" and LEAVE.
I always avoid "asking" any prospect out. Asking her gives her your power. I like to tell them that I will be doing something (ie. drink at a lounge or whatever) and that she can drop by and join me if she'd like. And go to the lounge to have a good drink weather she goes or not. Its great to bring a little work with you, paper work, homework, etc.
When you phrase it like I just suggested, its more comfortable for her and she will be less defensive about the offer because there are no expectations. She knows she can back out at any time before she meets you because she did not commit to "going out". Keep it casual.
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| detox75 | PostPosted: Sun Nov 24, 2013 10:28 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Sat Oct 08, 2011 4:56 pm Posts: 1904 Location: Portland, OR | | there is no way to coach or read material on making your move when all signs are go. No one is going to inform you of a way to make this easy, but at some point to succeed at game you are going to have to make more "moments" or "moves" by grabbing your sack and being a man about it. Don't worry, it gets easier over time and you will feel better about a rejection then doing nothing.
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| Conker | PostPosted: Mon Nov 25, 2013 5:12 am | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Sun Apr 12, 2009 7:52 am Posts: 1037 Website: http://pickupfixup.wordpress.com/ Location: Brisbane, Australia | | Sounds like you're just plain shy, and all this advice to "just do it" is as helpful as telling a depressed person to "just be happy".
You actually have to put yourself in situations which challenge your confidence, and make you improve it. Then asking her some more forward questions won't seem so scary. They will still be scary, but not too scary.
Well one basic question is after you've had a nice chat about reptiles, you can go to leave, then turn and say "hey great chatting to you - there's this great place I like to eat at after work, want to grab a bite afterwards?"
Goal is to not make it too serious and not about her, just something fun to do together. _________________ Get more free advice at my blog; http://pickupfixup.wordpress.com/
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