| Well I just said it's what you would normally do, but you stick to those things, regardless of how you feel. Do you remember what you normally do?
I have 2 different part time jobs to put me through study, doing hens parties, and also (funnily enough) playing characters at kids parties. In both situations, when anxious (in front of a crowd) I've seen the power of just sticking to what you know works, focusing on your tone of voice, how you're placing your body so as not to show awkward body language, and just execute those things, regardless of how you feel inside. Then people just "buy" it. You find it doesn't matter how you feel on the inside, if you're doing all the right things on the outside, people just believe you.
Of course this applies to social situations too. I've just had the opportunity to see this phenomena in effect on a REGULAR basis and at a very powerful level, due to those 2 jobs.
Like always, if you're too busy "thinking of what to say or do", you're not in the moment and you're missing out on opportunities to react to something that's actually happening. The other thing is - if nothing much is happening, you set the frame by doing something that you think is a fun thing to do right now.
Here's an idea, why not just "bounce" her out of line of sight from your friends who have you in the spotlight? Take her hand, say "let's go for a walk". Doesn't matter where or what, you're doing it quickly and with confidence, assuming she WILL go with you when you stand up and take her hand and start moving.
Think of a place around there which is maybe secluded. Then you don't have to worry about being in the spotlight! _________________ Get more free advice at my blog; http://pickupfixup.wordpress.com/
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