Hey guys, went out last night, with the mentality to have fun, i always go out with that mentality over picking up. But everytime previously ive been out ive been given hints from girls, and pussied out. I said to myself yesterday that lastnight i need to grow some balls and do something. Ive learnt alot from reading and watching people, and general conversation and use some of that in my approaches.

Basically lastnight i went to a bar then headed to a casino / nightclub in western australia where im from. Hit about 1.30am after 2.5 hours of being there and i had still done nothing i was like cant be that hard, i snapped and went screw it. Said to my mate back in a sec. Walked off went to a young attractive female that i had my eyes on. Touched her on the lower back quickly just to get her attention. She turned around and smiled and i said " Would you like to dance?". She said "but im with my friend". So i just smiled back and replied. Enjoy your night. She kept checking me out throughout the night. Im also known as a dance monkey so apparently im quite good, her and her friend kept pointing and looking at me. And in the corner of my eye i could see her checking me out, when i would look at her she would quickly shy away.

That was my first approach, even though she said no in an around about way, i felt on top of the world weirdly enough, before i approached i thought it would be the total opposite. Bit later in the night my "drunk mate *sigh*" was non stop dancing near group of chicks being all desperate trying to pick up. He come up to me and said be my wing man, we were dancing within a metre of them for about 2 mins, when i was like why am i wasting my time here and said to my mate, which one you want. He said any, so in the blink of an eye, without even thinking about it, i walked straight up to the hottest chick in the group and said " Would you like to dance?". She replied "im with my best friend" it was a 3 set though, i replied " i got 3 mates here with me" she responded with the same answer. And i just smiled and said enjoy your night. Walked off as if it didnt happen and party'd on the dance floor. Same thing happen again where they were watching me on the dancefloor quite often. At the end of the night no pickup, but the best night of experience ill ever get.

I want your opinions on what i can change or do differently. Also i thought my drunk mate was a killer for the second approach, but need confirmation on that. What have other people tried or done differently in those situations?

Take full responsibility first. There's no drunk mate's fault.
Stay longer in set if they enjoying it. Stay in set if they feeling awkawrd and
Silent. Stay more longer even if girls telling u fuck off. Don't take shit personally.

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Generally when guys ask girls to dance they mean grind, so its unlikely if you have just met her she will - you are basically offering her a ride on your possibly infested jeans.

Here's how it COULD work; catch eye contact - do a stupid dance movement directly to her, then if she giggles ask her to dance non verbally with the hand of god (just hold out your hand) if she's into it she'll take it, no resistance. If she's not you ignore her and carry on. General idea is to get a non verbal response more often than not- like a smile or a giggle, by dancing stupidly you show you are not a threat, you take her hand, spin her, maybe do one more ridiculous move to make her comfortable when she is dancing with you, then ESCALATE. (you said you're a decent dancer -me too - I do a little body popping in front of them, hand of god, and then say "wanna learn a little something? ")

Take her hand and show her how to pop and lock a bit, spin her into a grind and see if she resists or goes with it, if she doesn't seem into it, spin her back round and DROP her hand. To everyone else it will look like you got rid of her, and you have been dancing with this girl. Even if it goes well and she enjoys it, make sure you are the one to end it, not her. It shows you are in control and don't need her to validate you by dancing with you.

Hope this helps,

Jake

Cheers for the feedback guys ill definitely try some of the tips you guys have given me, doesnt hurt to try something new. Im going out tomorrow night so ill give them a whirl then also im going try another thing i heard also, the chicks didnt reject me, but they didnt want to leave there friends so i also might try approaching and asking to join them, instead of trying to steal their friend away.

^^^ Good lesson learned