So I'm 17, probably a little bit younger than the average poster on this forums but who cares ? So my problem is this, well one I'm a pussy, I've hardly talked to any girls because I moved school a lot and go to an all boys school. Anyway Long story short, this means that my social skills, at least with girls are somewhat (very) lacking and the only way to improve is well...to talk to some, and well the only way to do that is to find some. I've been hit-on quite a few times by girls, at the time I was either to blissfully unaware or scared to notice/do anything about it . So what should I expect the first time I do this, (other than shitting myself) also any advice places to start, good openers, e.t.c would be good. and I know that at the end of the day nothing beats actually just DOING it, still trying to psych myself up though !

P.S I know that there are probably multiple similar topics but when I typed in the search bar it only came up with topics about the other 'first time'. Incase its relevant I'm from England.

Do each of these for a few days/ weeks until you get bored and move to the next:

1. Ask girls for easy shit like the time of day or how to get to a "good bookstore" or "good bar" or favorite cheap restaurant, etc". To make it easy on yourself PLAN TO BAIL . Say thanks and leave. If you plan to try to get somewhere then you may end up never even trying. Once you have done this 50 times...

2. Try to add a follow up question like: "are you a student? What are you studying? Why did you choose to study that? Or why did you choose to work in that field?". you can also make comments like "you seem kindof quirky, are you a hippy/punk/fashion model/etc." (while gently touching their arm or shoulder). If you get into a decent conversation say something like: you seem interesting, give me your FB (or "we should go to that club on saturday give me your number"). Or better yet, if she seems like she is not in a hurry, ask "are you busy now? You should grab lunch with me".

3. Once you are really badass you can just go up to anyone and say "Hi, where are you from? Whats your name? " If you feel pressure to give a reason say "I'm bored /killing time until _____ and like to talk to people".

If you do this with absolutely no fear of rejection people/girls will often be hugely impressed.

Your frame should be: "Everyone is seeking to meet dates/friends who share their interests and they are attracted to. I'm just speeding up the process. Some people will like me and others won't its not personal. If a girl does not want to date me then we can be friends and she will probably introduce me to other girls who will want to date me. Guys are usually not enemies and in fact can be friends who will also introduce me to girls and invite me to parties. Don't overlook getting guys numbers and networking with them /winging! If you see a cool dressed guy compliment him and make friends!

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When pretending not to care what she thinks becomes really not caring what any of them think...that day I will be a PUA.

Kavakid knows exactly what he's talking about, start easy. Also two other things you could try is first,

Walk up to a girl and say "Hey I saw you before and had to come and tell you that your gorgeous", then walk away. You cant get rejected and if your close by and they really like you they will re approach you. Not to mention you might find the chick starts asking about you straight after your compliment making you feel more comfortable to stay and talk.

2ndly i saw this in a movie called Rodger Dodger, You should have some male mates, who would probly be interested also. If yourr that scared approach for your mate, in other words. Walk up to a chick your mate likes and say to her "Hey see my mate over there, he has something really important to tell you" or like the movie says "Hey see that guy over there he's got something to tell you that will blow your mind. Do that for each other and see how you go.

As much as I'd like to tell you to develop some good openers and routines to bust out on sets, you may want to start out "small chunking" it. You are pretty young and apparently have some self-confidence issues, so biting off more than you can chew might be too much for you at first.

You can try making random comments to girls in passing, just to see how they react. You don't have to approach them and square off and make it all official. Maybe walk by a girl who is looking at a dress in a shop and tell her "That color would look good on you" and smile. If she smiles back you can stop and tell her she has a pretty smile too. If she rolls her eyes initially, just keep walking. That's a very low energy, low-commitment sarging technique. You can also ask mundane things to girls like directions or for a piece of gum, just to get them to stop and give you there attention. Then try to parlay that into a flirtacious conversation.

You're also going to be hitting on teenage girls, which are actually much easier than grown women. They are more easily impressed and more easily flattered. Don't neg them, but do use DHV.

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Thanks for the replies, I have a friend who would like to go out and do it with me is that a good idea or a bad one?

Deffinitely a good idea to start with, but just dont like get in each other's way and like cock block each other. Just use each other to push one another into giving it a shot, practice makes perfect. Later down the track you should get use to doing it alone, but for now while your learning, you need all the help/ motivation you can get.

Wings are always good. But have a gameplan. Where will he stand and what will he do while you open the set? When will he come in? What will he say? When will he eject once you isolate the target? Where will he go? Anticipate the logistical consderations and plan for them.

And of course the golden rule is don't fuck up your wing's game, and vice versa. I'm still pissed at one of my wings because I opened this hb8 and had some good initial rapport going, and dude comes flying out of this shop and hits me on the arm and is like "Let's go bro!" and drags me off right in the middle of my set. I thought he like robbed the place or something and we needed to bail. Found out he saw some girls in there we opened earlier and was running away from them. WTF?

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