Hey all,
I think I'm onto something here with this, but I can't for the life of me come up with the exact words to use in this opener. This might be a bit of a long read, but I think you will find it worth it.
The technique is really simple and goes like this though: You walk around, talking on your cell to an imaginary friend, maybe dropping conversation bits indicating higher value or some topic you would like her to pick up on before you open her, asking a question related to the phone conversation you are having.
If you've for example been sitting next to her on a train while talking to this imaginary friend, expect her to have listened in. You can then say bye to your friend and start off with something like 'jeesh, can you believe that? My friend just won a million dollars on the lottery! ' or some other crazy story. Just make sure whatever you say to her fits with what you were talking about on the phone. If what you've been talking about with your friend is interesting enough like that, she will be interested in talking about that, and it won't seem weird that you want to share such amazing news with the random person next to you.
If you are walking down the street and see her, just say to your friend 'wait a sec, here's someone I can ask', put a palm up to the phone and ask her 'Hey, do you know where blah blah is? My friend and me were supposed to meet up there, but neither of us know the way'.
It sounds like a simple thing, and it is, but the benefits are immense:
- First impression for her is that you're a social guy with friends and can't be THAT weird.
- It gives you an excuse to show off your smile and positive attitude in front of her as you talk with your pal
- You can demonstrate higher value by talking like a friendly alpha male about interesting and high value topics.
- You stand out from the crowd and get on her radar as you make more noise than the other silent people around.
- She is more likely to hear your first words as she knows in advance how your voice sounds like and doesn't have to process that while you open her.
- You opening her will seem natural. You're just trying to help a friend on the line. Even if she is familiar with PUAs, you cannot have planned to open her, as you're having the conversation with your friend right now. It will just seem really spontaneous.
- If for some reason you are going in the same direction her and catching up to her, you can tap on her shoulder to open her from behind, as she will know you're there. It won't trigger the stalker-alert nearly as fast when you openly go about talking loud and laughing behind her.
- She will be more compelled to give you an answer when there's two of you who wants to know, even if one of them is on the phone.
- The time constraint is built-in. She knows you can't keep your pal on the phone for too long (but after the opening question, you can fake that he has to leave, and suddenly you have time to speak to her some more).
- If you want to bail after the first question, it wouldn't be rude or weird to just thank her and get back to your friend.
- You have your phone at the ready for taking her number.
It is actually really easy to fake a phone conversation. Just space it out with some pauses and 'mhm. Yeah. Oh, really?' between the lines with actual information, and it will seem natural. Just a word of advice: Set your phone to silent so it doesn't ring while you are having the fake conversation.
Okay so that' that for the technique. Now I want to hear what stories and questions would be good for this. I mean the usual ones would probably work with a little rephrasing. 'Hey, quick question, who lies more, guys or girls? I was just on the phone with a friend and I think she was lying to me. How can you tell if a girl lies?' or 'who lies more, guys or girls? Me and my friend were just discussing that on the phone and could use a female perspective' for example. But I want to open with something that conveys more value without blatantly talking about 'my luxury yacht' and so on. So, what are some good stories and questions for opening with this technique?