| You appear to know some terms, but you do not appear to grasp their meaning very well.
"Lol im sorry im way to honest n open...its a flaw"
This is not a DLV, because how is being open and honest of low value? She's actually bragging about her personality, but trying to conceal it by labeling these positive qualities as flaws.
"I know...I tend to be over sarcastic a lot..."
Now this is a DLV. You're explaining yourself to her and you are basically saying that you are not humorous.
"Lol! Only cuz guys are not patient"
This is a shit test. She's asking you to qualify yourself as a patient guy.
"Thats a pretty shallow generalization! (NEG)"
You did not qualify yourself, which you can consider as a success. However, you could have taken this opportunity to reframe your supposed impatience as leadership, e.g. "I don't see the point in waiting around 'til good things magically come my way. You have to grab life by the balls and don't let go, don't you think?" Also, this is not a neg. You are not insulting her (but one of her statements), nor does it appear accidental.
"!!(Notice the major time diff in her reply)!!"
I did. Do you think what she said about guys being impatient may somehow be connected to the timing of her reaction?
If I look at your conversation, it appears that she is playing you like a fiddle. My advice is to actually LISTEN to what she is saying before you even think about replying. As for continuing your conversation, just say you appreciate honesty and openness in a woman, then tell her something that shows these qualities in you. Or better yet, challenge her on it and make her qualify herself to you, e.g. "So you are open and honest, are you? Okay, tell me something you've never told anyone before." _________________ One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.
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