I need tips on being social with strangers mostly but somewhat with people I know. I can't seem to spark a conversation with women or men sometimes.. I'm not sure what to say here and there.. I can usually say whats up or hey.. throw in a high five. Sometimes joke around but it's not on a constant basis.. I want to be able to do it all the time. I want to be able to build repport and friendships and even relationships.. Any feedback would help.

one of the primary things in life.
anywho you remind me of myself, i would over analize the things i should say or do infront of the people i was with.
but that was the old me now im the one that blows people out of my way because what they say is pointless in other words useless or doesnt affect me in any tangible way... i know how you feel and i hope that you put time and effort into what im gonna give you...

first thigs first.
if you currently spend more than 2 hours on things that bring you nothing such as video games, computer games, ect you need to stop.. rather than doing those things join a gym, workout, read magazines, read interesting websites (kinowear.com, elitedaily.com are my personal fav for the valuable info they offer), learn things through youtube ( i learned palm reading, few card tricks, body posture, astronomy, and neurolenguistics basically anything is in youtube). watch popular shows and try to be updated with sports scores (mostly on football, basketball and soccer). keep your self updated with the movies coming out on teathers.
I KNOW, this is already too much.. dont overheat your brain but make it a habit of learning new things, and being informed about whats around you..

with this list you could hardly run out of things to say...

Second thing
Spend about 30 dollars on neil struss "the stylelife challenge"
i assure you that if you follow that book step to step
you going to be a total new person in 30 days..
i'm on day 12 of the challenge.
i have repeated multiple missions till im confortaable with them
and i can tell you that now i feel such an idiot when i dont talk to people.
i just now normally make a conversation with people...

well hope this chages your life to a better you like it did to me.

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Being social is hard, especially if it doesn't come natural. I always used to hate small talk, still do actually. But it's a crucial part of the socialization process. You also have to demonstrate you are social proof, which is a function of being the center of attention and displaying value to others. Find a commonality with the people you are engaging. Then either talk about yourself and why you like doing those things, or allow them to talk about themselves. You don't even have to be interesting, but you do have to be talkative and receptive.

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15 approaches two numbers closed with this ''interview'' routine
me:u sport alot huh
HB:not realy,why
me:u have this fresh,sporty,healthy look about u,do u eat lots of fruit and vegetables?
hb:hahaha not more then any one else i think
me:then must have it naturaly i gues
hb:hahaha i think so
me:what do u do for a living?
hb:im still a student studying history,i wanna be history teacher
me:and when u got a day off u probaly go shopping all the time
hb:haha im not realy in to shopping like most girls are,maybe once a month or so
me:what do u like to do in ur sparetime?
hb:i dont have much sparetime cause i work part time besides my study,but mostly just hangin with friends or going to the movies
me:cause i bet u will like to have drink with me when u got a day off in the weekend
hb:why not
me:whats ur number?
hb:00xxxxxxxx
me:ur not working like every weekend dont u ..(while she type in number)
hb:no im not hahaha
me:alright i will give u call soon,dont go flirting with other guys aight
hb:hahaha i will not

realy simply handeld,but dont go think that every girl will go for this,every women different just approach enough and keep things memorized and simple,not everybodys brain is like a computer with 8gb ram u know

I agree with spacevolt, learning trough videos and books really helps alot,atleast it did for me. If you are scared for aproaching, try to say hi to about 10 random girl a day. Itll make it alot easier and study routines and conversation topics in you're head but avoid closed questions. Hope it helps and GL

open up with statements is more playfull and spontaneous.

u must be doing something in the music industry
u sport alot right

early one always open with:hi,i just saw u walking and i had to say hi because u look so sexy,wich make the girls say thank u and walk away and with these openers i could never have strong eye contact,but with statements u gonna notice u will have stronger eye contact and appear less needy and approval seeking.

Thanks for the advice guys I already started saying hi to peeps which is a step in the right direction also had a few good interactions... now working on either getting them to talk oeuvrr me talking enough to spark that interest.

Hi Slaphappy,

I feel I'm in the same situation as you, and have just started doing something about it. Started yesterday. This month I am working on approaching. Five per day. So far it's only asking for the time. I'm taking it slow at first, getting into the habit of approaching right now.

I'm positive that if I keep this up I will have the success with girls that I wish, in one years time (I just turned 25). I'm sure you can do. It's about baby steps in the right direction, I think.

Anyway, I'm blogging about my mission I'm on. Feel free to read, comment, maybe start your similar journey and we could give each other feedback. The blog is in my signature.

Peace

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I had this problem before and it is easy for me to fall right back into old habits. I would say to just keep going out, and keep trying to speak with people until it becomes natural to you. Now; after so much practice, I'll be walking down the street see an attractive woman and if nothing else I will ask her how she is doing, and how was her day...just keep doing it.