Hey everyone, thanks for stopping by. I've been lurking on this forum for several months, just picking up the bits that I think would help and been using them IRL. Over that time I've gotten pretty good at opening and getting numbers, and I've moved onto several k# closes.

I've been content with that approach, until now with this one particular chick. She works at the cafe which is directly attached to the gym I go to 3/4 times a week, so I've seen her plenty over these same months. I've been chatting away with her while doing my other routines in the background. She's absolutely fine, but I never particularly cared to make any overt attempts with her, thanks to the time involved and her being around when I was still in total nervous AFC territory.

Anyways, the reason I'm coming here is several days ago, I thought she had given off several strong IOI's. If you order a takeaway drink (I had), you were meant to go pick it up from the counter; but she took it out to me. I enquired as to why, and was told "I guess you're special." I took that in stride, said I was indeed special but also busy, and left the gym/cafe. One of the girls at the counter went "oh la la" as well (not sure if that's a good or bad sign). I then saw her again today after the gym and after talking for a bit, I tried to arrange something. She told me that she was way too busy with work and didn't do any social activities any more (this is at least partly true, I've talked to everyone at the cafe enough to know so). This was despite the fact that when she saw me, her face broke into a huge smile and she giggled.

So . . . what should I do? I get the feeling she's clearly into me, but I don't know how or even if I should bother proceeding. If I'm misreading the signals, I'll just bail and forget about it, but I can't for the life of me figure out how to progress with her. Should I not show up for the next few days, bring one of the other girls I'm working on to the place for lunch or what?

Oh yeah, I searched for her on Facebook and her profile came up. However, I literally only use it to keep in contact with mates in a different city (first year uni and I moved locations) and my profile definitely needs to be tidied up if I do anything on FB with her. Adding her out of the blue probably won't work though, and being relegated to FB chat doesn't seem very effective at the moment, but it is an option.

Any thoughts at all would be appreciated.

A friend of mine recently was in the same situation with a girl, they would see each other 2/3 time a week and would talk everytime, he would always ask her out and she'd say she was too busy. Now that he has on a LTR, this girl calls him to go out everytime, including studying at her place (i dont know how he can resist it).

I would show up with another girl(the hotter the better) and introduce them. Say she's a good friend of yours. Be sure to get eye contact with the other girl and grab some smiles off of her especially in front of your target. Make it seem like you moved on.

The FB thing, I wait for them to add me or at least ask me to add them.

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