What guys, you can check out this new post on my blog. Its a topic i have been dwelling on and trying out in the field lately. Works wonders.
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http://theattractiveu.com/qualification/
Qualification
So i want to talk about a VERY important topic during day game. This will answer SO many questions guys are asking on forums.
Such as:
What do i say next after i introduce myself?
How do i start another conversation?
How do i build rapport?
Well today i am going to introduce you to something called qualification. This is VERY important because it will lead to threads of conversation that build rapport.
What is Qualification?
Most females believe that when they are approached by a guy he is ONLY interested in her physical appearance. While this is true, you want to show interest and compliment her on her personality and achievements as well.
It is a process of screening and rewarding. Screening is the process of assessing whether a women meets your standards and rewarding her where she does meet your standards. Rewarding is done by mostly complimenting her.
Why is this important?
High status guys have high(or some) standards for the women in their life. By showing a women she has met some or a few of your standards upon your first interaction with her, she will be more attracted to you.
Women will spend more time with you and be more willing for day 2′s if you show you appreciate her for who she is. She may very well be attracted to you already but if she feels like she will just be another trophy to brag about, she will likely let these thoughts affect her actions toward you.(Flaking, no shows, etc).
If you don’t qualify a women before trying to escalate it will be harder. You may get through with some women without qualifying them. Particular younger girls or party girls. In MOST cases without expressing interest in her for something other than physical appearance it will be hard to get her back to your place. In day game you can get a girls number without expressing interest in anything other than looks, but on day 2, you MUST qualify her or you will go home lonely with your hands.
You should start this phase once a women is attracted to you. You can tell by her eye contact with you, playing with her hair, smiling and laughing at all your jokes, etc) You will also just FEEL it. Once qualification is complete she will know you are attracted to her.
The difference between qualification during day game is that it starts sooner than it would in a club or bar. Attraction is built faster during the day time, so the quicker the attraction happens the quicker you can move to qualification. If you feel the girl is already attracted to you, you can move directly into qualification after the approach.
Women in bars tend to be drinking, with their friends, having multiple guys trying to get their attention throughout the night. For this reasons qualification during the day tends to run deeper and stronger. This will allow you to genuinely get a feel for a women besides her looks. This will also allows you to quickly judge where she fits in your life, if anywhere.
Screening
You can screen a women by bring topics into the conversation that lead to knowing more about her personality.Day game gives you a chance to have honest conversations with women. Think about this before you get out there, the kind of women you want, and begin to make screening conversational transitions and qualifiers to quickly learn more about a girl.
Screening topics include:
Career
Education
Travel
Hobbies
Music and movies
Fitness
Sports
Social Activities
I use this a lot when i find myself running out of things to say. I will just begin the qualifying/screening process. This will allow for engaging conversation and will build rapport. Now, if you meet a girl and she doesn’t pass your qualifiers don’t give up continue to talk and find out more about her. You want to make sure you don’t “Hard” screen, this will make it feel like you are interviewing her. instead add to the conversation by her answers.
Once you qualify her and she gives you something you like. Reward her with a compliment.Now, don’t compliment her to much and to often. Maybe wait till you guys are finish with a subject and compliment her on it after the fact. This will show you genuinely are interested in her and make her more attracted since most guys cant remember a girls name after they tell them the first time.
Examples of compliments:
Your actually really cool to talk to.
I think that is attractive in women.
I think its great you are ambitious.
You seem like a optimistic person. i like that. Good things usually come to people like yourself.
Be unpredictable with compliments, don’t give her an compliment one after another. You should space them out throughout your conversation.
As she tells you more about herself you can then give her deeper more connection compliments such as; “Its really great to meet someone with such a ambitious personality. I think a lot of people don’t live towards their ambitions. You really seem like you have the courage, and willing to take the risk to make things happen. That’s admirable. “
All compliments should be genuine. Don’t compliment EVERY single thing about a women you just met, and don’t PRETEND to love things about her you really don’t like. Using physical compliments are okay with moderation. Don’t dwell on them to much. You should aim to give a women only a few(two to three) compliments during an initial interaction. Giving her a compliment also lets her know you have some sort of romantic interest in her and not just stopping her to be nice. If she stays in the conversation this will let you know she is consenting to you picking her up. Usually after the first compliment if she has a boyfriend, not interested, or whatever her reason is she will excuse her self. Which most guys take as rejection when it IS NOT. It just means it may have been bad timing.
This is something i live by in the field. One of my main go-to’s. Try it out!
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