I always get a lot of anxiety making approaches but can usually push myself through to approach when a girl is by herself. The problem I have is when two girls are together and I'm by myself (which is usually the case since I prefer to pickup alone without a wingman). In these cases the AA is much tougher for me to push through.

In the past when I've tried to "isolate" the girl I liked, she wouldn't leave her friend to talk to me and when I asked a couple female friends of mine how this situation should yes be handled, they both said that I should talk to the one I'm interested in right in front of the friend instead of "isolating" asking to talk to the one I'm interested in alone. One of the female friends I asked said I should try to engage both girls in conversation and then ask the one I like for her #. But the other female friend said I should just approach the one I like and talk directly to her but not try to separate her from her friend.

So today I was in the mall (not to pickup but because I stopped by one of the stores there) and while I was there, I saw a super-hot girl that I was attracted to walking with her friend. I started in the direction of the two of them and tried to think of what to say as an "icebreaker" but the anxiety kicked in and my mind went blank so I couldn't think of anything to say. Then I left the mall pissed because I hate it when I chicken out like that.

I'd like to hear from guys who are experienced with approaching 2 girls together in a mall or day game environment. What are good ice breakers to use? Do you try engaging both girls in conversation or do you just talk to the one you like? Final question: do you just try to get the # right away since both girls are busy shopping and might not want to be bothered or do you stay longer to try and get more of a connection?

During day game i approach sets of 2 even 3 before. So you have to think logically, if it is a 2 set the odds of a girl leaving her friend alone in the mall while she talks to you is unlikely. So you have to be prepared to entertain the 2 set group. Its actually pretty simple during day game.

Just approach and say:

"Excuse my ladies/girls, I seen you guys walking pass and i just wanted to come introduce myself. Im _____"

They introduce their selves too, try and remember their names.

"I must say, you both look lovely, but (whatever the girl name is your trying to talk to) you look gorgeous and you have an amazing elegance about you. I just had to find to find out more about you."

Then maybe do the best friend test, or try and geuss where they meet. Tell them they seem like they met at college. They seem to have that college buddy friendship. It needs to be something engaging for both people. If you just talk to one girl it will be awkward and put pressure on your interaction with the HB.

You could even ask what they are up to today? And connect their. Or try and do a cold read on each girl. I use that a lot.

Just be engaging light-hearted and enjoy yourself.

Everyone feels that AA you get before you make an approach, what you have to do is SUCK IT UP and go IN. Thats the only way to get better

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That's an awesome response you gave me and I really appreciate this advice but after the name introduction and giving of the compliment ".....I just had to find out more about you", how do you respond when she says "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm married"? In that case would you just walk away or would you hang in there and persist?

This is another question that I struggle with - because there's a lot to be said for just giving up quickly and moving on to the next one. But there are many women who will just say they have boyfriends or husbands and will WANT you to persist. But you have no way of knowing.

You seem like you're a pretty experienced seducer so which of these approaches have you found to work best? Quick ejection and on to the next or hanging in there and persisting?

As long as she doesn't walk away, you're good to go. I let numerous HB8< slide with this excuse.

But with this mindset, not anymore:
"As long as she keeps talking with you, thats the only IOI you need." (can't remember who said that, but lets all take a bow to that man)

Oh yeah, as for the married goes, that one I'd let go. But it's a matter of personal preferences, personaly I can deal with breaking unhappy couples up, but breaking a potential familly in background...

Typically in those situations if the girl is staying around, showing signs of interest of attraction i will usually persist forward. If she is married then i extract. Me personally i think relationships are beautiful things and i don't like trying to steal a guys girl. That does nothing for me. There are enough single ones out there.

If she shows interest i will persist and let her know i am just looking for friends, i just recently got out of a LTR.

It just depends on you.


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