Hey guys, this is my first post in this forum but I have been reading it for a few weeks now.

I am a 23 year old waiter in a restaurant and Im used to see pretty girls come and go, but this one girl that I saw the other day might just be the most beautiful girl I have seen in my life.

This is the story: she goes regularly to eat at the restaurant with her family (mom,dad,brother) and for some reason i thought that she might be underage so I never paid attention, until this one day I saw her drinking at a bar with her girlfriends and a guy. I thought the guy was her boyfriend until I saw her leave without him.

I live in a small town and one of the friends I was with at the bar knows her dad so he gave me her lastname and I was able to find her on facebook (the only thing I could think of) so I added her.

Turns out that she is single and I really really want to meet her. so a couple days after I added her I sent her this message: "Hey, nice pics, havent I seen you in the restaurant **** before?"

She never replied, its been 3 or 4 days and I would really hate to give up now, but I have no idea what to do next to even start a conversation with her...

Any ideas??? please

My two cents...

1. I smell a one-itis coming up... Don't go there, it's a bad place

2. If she hasn't responded to you after 3,4 days, she's not going to respond at all... what young girl doesn't check her Facebook at least daily?

And a few questions...

- why would she respond to your message, as far as she knows, you're just another guy hitting on her via FB?
- do you have any common friends, or do you know where she hangs out?
- is it feasible that you approach her at the restaurant? I mean w/o her father beating the crap out of you?
- have you "tailored" your FB profile so that a chick visiting it thinks "Wow, this guy is interesting, I would like to meet him/jump his bones/marry him and have 2.4 children and a dog/...

Hope this helps... Bye!

What you said makes a lot of sense. Idk where she hangs out but there is one friend of mine that I have seen in her pictures, I don't see him very often but I guess I could work on that in the next few days.
I don't think the father would be too upset if I approach at the restaurant since he looks like a nice, civilized person. The problem is I don't have a clue of how to do this. I would appreciate a little guidance.

i'd basically say what my Romanian neighbor have said.

Beautiful girls are hit all the time by guys everywhere - online and in real life.

I don't think finding her online makes her think that you are so determent or show any high value of your side. It is kind of stalking.

Good news is perhaps she didn't even noticed who you are, so next time she comes across the restaurant you could intentionally approach her.

Maybe use something cocky funny like saying (if she orders alcohol).
"Do you get drunk easy? Be careful not to make some car accident on the way back". - If you get the serve her directly.

First of all if you don't have the enough social skills needed better just 'give up on her'. Although as men we tend to be competitive in different areas like business and sports i came to the conclusion that working soooo hard and not giving up to get JUST THAT ONE GIRL is a loose of time. I know it might not sound what you would like to hear but that is the most right to do in the moment.



Our understanding of persistence has a completely different meaning to the opposite sex. Usually a guy who is too ' persistent ' hitting on girl looks needy in her eyes.

For one thing be sure - she will not give you credit for that you are so persistent hitting her. Better channel your persistence in some other area - like career. There it will pay off.

Just try to approach her or ask her on a date and if she rejects you - big deal. You will learn something and be better next time. HB are everywhere once you set your mind to find them. Don't limit your self with only having to talk with one girl. Being able to talk and be socially comfortable with everyone will maximize your overall social skills that will help you in interacting with HBs.



So that is my take on. Hope explained it right. Give some feedback.

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