Ok I need some expert advise here, I'm really new to this concept of pulling a girl over facebook but how would you approach a girl over facebook that you have never met before? Sorry if there is another thread about this, but yeah It would be very helpful to know

_________________
https://www.facebook.com/mylesah /// or tweet me @MylesHamilton

Don't. Go out. If you really, really, really MUST have her find some kind of connection. People you both know, places she comes and try to meet her that way. Unless you are extremely handsome or famous she will not respond to a facebook message from a random stranger. I'm sorry.

_________________
Quantity. For someday, you will find quality. And you gotta do something in the meantime.

Well.. despite I usually like C1PH3R's replies this one would be the exception.

In my experience, you can have great success with girls you don't actually know, on FB.. Even if you don't have anything in common at all!

Just add the girl, if she accepts, just start a normal conv like you knew her already....

One of the top reasons people use social networks is because they're lonely and/or want to make new friends, and even if that is not the main reason for them to have a FB account (for example) They are accepting the fact that its really likely that some one will try to meet them.

FB pick-up obeys slightly different rules than real life (normal) pick-up. You don't need to be particularly interesting the moment you start chatting up, just have a cool Profile Pic, good conversational skills and the ability to be cool when she takes her time to reply to your chat msjs and starts asking questions

Being flirty over FB also obeys different rules (since there's no visual reference of your current body language). Depending on the text, the punctuation, the words you use and the timing, you might get the girl with ease.

For example

I see HB9, add her, IF she accepts, I wait 1 or 2 days, then start chat conv (in case she doesn't do it first) and just say Hi... how are ya, I think I know you but can't remember where, do you like hanging out at X place? Maybe i've seen you there, etc...

If questions like "where do I know you" "who are you" or stuff like that come up, i just answer straight.. I am John Doe, We dont know each other, I added you cuz I'm makin new friends , I saw your profile tru some one else's (can't remember who)...

The idea is to be funny and to hook her fast. Do not show a Cocky and Funny frame too fast, or a good guy's.. It might not work, just be funny, be confident of yourself, and talk to her like you already know her..

About the timing.. Usually ppl use their FB during work hours (9am tru 5pm) so this might be a good time to hit up on casual conversation and gives you the advantage of an automatic False time constrain (my boss is here, wait, Im finishing up some reports, Im on my math class finishing my exam, Some one's knocking the door, wait, etc..)..... This is cool because FTC help you create the image, in her mind, that you are, either in charge of an important job at your work place, or at least you take charge of your own home.

If you decide to have a chat with her during evening hours (6pm tru 9pm), just consider the fact that those might be her Off work/school hours. The time she takes to contact her people, her friends, (both guys and girls) and she might not be too available for a stranger like you, so dont be surprised if she doesnt reply to your messages. Altough, on the other hand, if during evening hours she does reply and you manage to have a cool conv with her, you're on !! That would be a good sign!

Now, late night hours (9pm tru 3 am) is usually (in my personal opinion) reserved for intimate chatt with real friends. Also, its very common that many girls turn off their computers early so.... Anyways, I'd recomend you the following..

Add the girl, if she accepts, take 1 or 2 days to start a conv. (preferrably during work hours or evening hours) Be funny, use false time constrains (gotta get some food, my boss is here, some one knocking the door etc), Do not be to strong on any Cocky and funny or nice guy attitude, BE it, but not too much. Do not try to impress her with stories, use media to create conversation topics (did you hear the news?, do you like this video?, have you seen my pictures? etc..)

When you've created enough attraction or interest (usually takes a couple of good, consistent FB chats, you can ask her out

I've had lots of success stories with FB girls that I get to meet in person later FOR REAL, and in the past (before my 2.5 yeras relationship) I'd meet and date at least 1 FB girl every 15 days (well, maybe not that many ) besides whatever girls i'd pick up in real life scenarios

Hope this works man.

BTW, about C1PH3R's post. Yeah. It's better if you get used to picking up in real life instead of FB..

_________________
".. I will learn all that I've forgotten, I will succeed where I'd previously failed, and even if I don't I wont stop, cuz this is not just about girls, this is about Life "

Hey guys im a bit new to this, but yeah after reading your post BASS, i added a few girls and one of them showed potential, but not sure how to proceed, any advice or critique would be most apreciated, heres the convo so far:

ME
Hey hows it going? i saw u on suggested friends...i think we met at Beijing club

31 minutes agoQing Zhang
We met?

28 minutes agoMME
im guessing that wasnt u then..u look farmiliar, i remember ur round face haha

27 minutes agoQing Zhang
Lol I hate when ppl say dat

26 minutes agoMME
lol would u rather people think u r cute or sexy?

25 minutes agoQing Zhang
I want to be sexy but all my friends say I can never be !Tt

22 minutes agoME
yeah...i guess it depends what on u wear too lol when ur bf compliments u does he say sexy or cute?

21 minutes agoQing Zhang
I'm single

20 minutes agoME
oh really? cute girls r normally in relationships, its the sexy girls that r usually single

19 minutes agoQing Zhang
Y is dat?

16 minutes agoME
for that answer we would need to go deeper into social dynamics lol
what r your 3 best qualities that are not related to how you look

15 minutes agoQing Zhang
.......

12 minutes agoME
its not that hard is it? U r student right?

10 minutes agoQing Zhang
No

9 minutes agoME
u sound upset haha sorry i did not mean to offend

8 minutes agoQing Zhang
Sleepy

5 minutes agoME
friend needs me for her practice, we continue this later haha maybe after u rest

5 minutes agoQing Zhang
Sweet



So yeah what can i do guys?

I wouldn't of mentioned the social dynamics things, by the way she typed I can tell that something like that would have just got passed off completely as nonsense. but good effort though! I'm going to try this technique out on friday because in my town thursday nights are student nights and it's perfect for picking up girls!

_________________
https://www.facebook.com/mylesah /// or tweet me @MylesHamilton

Cannonh.. Here's my personal review on your conversation (My comments are enclosed in ()

ME
Hey hows it going? i saw u on suggested friends...i think we met at Beijing club
(Unless she asked, there's no reason to tell her why you are adding her as friend, plus, telling her you met at a club is only gonna make her try remember and since you never really met, she's just gonna think youre lying and/or trying to pick her up)

31 minutes agoQing Zhang
We met?

28 minutes agoMME
im guessing that wasnt u then..u look farmiliar, i remember ur round face haha
(she doubted about that "we met at x club" thing, but you recovered.... That round face thing was good neg)

27 minutes agoQing Zhang
Lol I hate when ppl say dat

26 minutes agoMME
lol would u rather people think u r cute or sexy?
(why would you pay "indirect" compliements to her?? She already helped you to keep neggin her when she said "I hate when ppl say dat" but you didnt use it to your advantage... )

25 minutes agoQing Zhang
I want to be sexy but all my friends say I can never be !Tt
(she picks up on your compliements... You could have negged her again)

22 minutes agoME
yeah...i guess it depends what on u wear too lol when ur bf compliments u does he say sexy or cute?
(By saying something about her having a BF you are kinda showing interest too early and, again, you are compliementing her...... This is NO NO)

21 minutes agoQing Zhang
I'm single
(She doesn't even say Thanks to your "sexy or cute" line. I think she's actually bored of that)

20 minutes agoME
oh really? cute girls r normally in relationships, its the sexy girls that r usually single
(What's your point with this?, is it to compliement her again on her looks? or to tease her about not being sexy or cute? Because you already implied she was both, I feel it as non-congruent tease from you)

19 minutes agoQing Zhang
Y is dat?
(She's either bored of that "sexy girls are single" thing and just being polite or actually interested. You could reply with an actual neg or something that will make her laugh)

16 minutes agoME
for that answer we would need to go deeper into social dynamics lol
what r your 3 best qualities that are not related to how you look
(ok, you did not neg her and didn't make her laugh, but instead tried to appear interesting talking about you going "deeper social dynamics", and right after that you ask her to qualify herself to you. Girls do not just qualify because you ask, You must generate attraction in order for her to want to qualify herself without you asking)

15 minutes agoQing Zhang
.......
(This is her being bored, busy with something else, or just letting you know she's not into your conversation anymore)

12 minutes agoME
its not that hard is it? U r student right?
(Another question.. And why assuming she's a student?, I can feel you trying to recover but you well know the conv is dying)

10 minutes agoQing Zhang
No

9 minutes agoME
u sound upset haha sorry i did not mean to offend
(Do not say "Im sorry". This is a shit test. You're trying to make her think you're the man, right? but why would the man say Im sorry for asking something or saying what he thinks??.. Congruence test not passed, you lost a bit of value)

8 minutes agoQing Zhang
Sleepy
(That's BS, she might be sleepy,but if the conv was interesting for her she'd stay)

5 minutes agoME
friend needs me for her practice, we continue this later haha maybe after u rest
(You tried to use False Time constrain with that " a friend needs me for her practice" but too late, she's already letting you go, there's no actual need for FTC now, infact, it could work against you. Finally, she doesnt seem to want to continue with THAT any other time... You are being considerate by saying "after you rest" but there's no need to do that... The "sleepy" thing she said, is BS, she's just a bit tired and bored)

5 minutes agoQing Zhang
Sweet

Good things:

-You neg'd her at least once.
-You made her laugh at least once.
-You kept an overall positive vibe during the conversation
-I like the fact that you kept the conv going even when it was not goinng well. You experimented and didn't stop or eject like that..

Bad things:

-Assuming she's got a BF
-Giving her too many reasons to why you add her and why you think you know her
-Compliementing her too early and too much
-Lost the oportunity to neg her more than once
-You kept just talking about her and asking her questions instead of proving yourself and make her ask you questions.
-Tried to look interesting by talking about deep Social dynamics. It didn't work.
-Asked her to qualify herself. She must want to do that because of the attraction she feels for you, not because of you asking her.
-Apologized when you shouldn't
-The girl seemed to be a bit cold (doesnt have to do with your efforts)

Coments: I think you kept a good vibe despite the girl was not too warm. You showed interest too early in the conversation and actually compliemented her too much (in my opinion). I think you have the potential to keep a conversation going (even if it is not with this particular HB), just remember to read between lines and learn when's a good time to neg her and when is not.

Next time you two are online, let her initiate the chat, if she doesn't wait at least 2 days and you start the conversation. Be light, be funny, no need to ask questions (its not an interview), do not compliement her, be teasy and neg her a lot, do not say I'm sorry unless you really offend her "example: you trying to make a bad joke on Kids with Cancer or something stupid as that", do not give her reasons to why you do whatever you do, do not try to appear interesting by saying stuff like deep dynamics or shit, and do not assume anything about her. Generate attraction and let her ask you questions (besides, that would be an IOI, she being interested in you.)

I know im a bit harsh on this review man, but you asked for this, right?

You can do better, just try to learn from your mistakes and do not let yourself be discouraged if you fail with this (or with another 100 girls)... Learning is your goal, not just scoring a particular girl.

_________________
".. I will learn all that I've forgotten, I will succeed where I'd previously failed, and even if I don't I wont stop, cuz this is not just about girls, this is about Life "