| First and foremost, get off the canned material, especially on a second-meet. They like you well enough that they wanted to see you again, so you should let them see YOU instead of the lines you've learned.
That being said, there are ways that you can structure your conversation towards a seductive end. As always, open-ended statements and questions are the key to making any interaction work well. Remember your Four Rs: Register, Respond, Relate, Reward.
Register
Listen to what she is saying. Get out of your own head. Your head is not where you want to be. You WANT to be in her bed, so she is the most important thing in the world to you at that moment. Help her be interesting by being interested in what she's telling you.
Respond
If you do not understand something that she has said, or you think you could understand it more clearly, make sure you ask about it. Respond to what she has said with something relevant. If she's talking about her poodle, don't talk about scuba diving. Sure, both topics involve animals, but we're looking for one degree of seperation here. She talks about her poodle, you talk about your cats. She says something you don't know how to respond to, ask her to clarify. A sly smile and "I'm not really sure what you mean by that," is usually sufficient to get her to explain in more detail.
Relate
Women (and metro guys) relate to things on an emotional level. Guys tend to fixate on the THINGS, whereas women fixate on how those things make them FEEL. You want to escalate a conversation to the sexual, you have to make sure you're relating to her on an emotional level. To go back to the pets, if she's talking about giving her pet a bath, you can say something like "I love my cats because they have such distinct personalities. It makes me feel like I'm living with two little people." Then sit tight and be silent. She'll start telling you about the cuteness of Foofoo thinking she's people. All animals think they're people. Except my cats, who think I am a cat...
Reward
People are mammals. We react well to positive reinforcement. Don't believe me? Watch a six year old kid days after a temper tantrum gets him a chocolate bar. He'll throw another one, get another chocolate bar, and the cycle just gets worse. We never actually grow out of it, either. Escalation, then, comes through positive reinforcement. Kino is a form of positive reinforcement, but so is sitting down comfortably with someone. When she says something or does something that you find agreeable, let her know. Through your words or your actions, she should become aware that her behavior has pleased you. "You know, I really like people who love their animals as much as you. Let's go sit down in this dark corner," is a strong example of possitive reinforcement escalation. It is also a statement of interest.
Statements of Intent are also a possitive reinforcement tactic. By informing her, in no uncertain terms, that you plan on delivering a set of screaming orgasms by the end of the night, you are rewarding her for her behavior. That is why SOIs should only come directly after she has done something to please you. She needs to feel as though she's earned it. If it's too early in the game to threaten orgasms, just say something like "I'm going to do bad, bad naughty things to you later..." and change the subject.
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