| When a girl opens you first, neg or open in a way that returns frame control to you. If she opens in a relatively innocent way, lightly neg and calibrate w/ kino and all that jazz. Assume attraction but at the same time, DON'T make it seem to easy. You want to maintain your prize mentality rather than let it seem like she caught you off guard. Most reverse openers fail because the guy seemed too needy too quick. Patience is the refined version of confidence.
Now in terms of your specific situation:
The girl was showing you interest by approaching you but had her back turned towards you to maintain plausible deniability. I e; the female version of approach anxiety. It allows her to proactively LJBF you in case she's not interested AFTER the both of you initially talk, and to hold onto an excuse in case YOU reject her. "Huh? I wasn't sitting here to talk to him..." Hot girls are afraid of rejection the most, their egos sit on the biggest pedestals.
I would've gone for immediate direct game, like, "you're kinda cute" and then dazzle her with that diabolical smirk. You already know she's interested, no point in using non-sequitor game as you already know you're not going to get blown out. And approaching directly let's her know you're not afraid of being upfront and taking what you want, nor does her beauty or initiative shake your Cyborgian state control.
Indirect game would work, insofar as you could still cultivate attraction. I e; open the way Holden suggested. I just prefer direct in this situation because its only disadvantage is somewhat numbed (that a girl has to make an "instant" decision"). Direct game let's you establish attraction much faster.
A hard-take away would also work. You could join the circle she's in, and ignore her completely despite knowing she's interested, perhaps even gaming a different girl successfully. This would require you to either have preceding social proof or to be able to work a room so you could still "advertise" your game. Sway away from her the first few times she approaches you or tries to and then AFTER you've thoroughly shown her you're a pre-selected male who freely turns down pussy for better pussy, you could satisfy her hunger for your attention.
As for the second scenario:
Choosing between indirect/direct doesn't matter as much in this situation. She hasn't overtly communicated interest or disinterest, you can go either way and game conventionally.
If I ever get a lot of eye contact from a girl, and I reciprocate by holding it back; I open with
Me: "You lose"
Her: "huh?"
Me: "You blinked first"
And on that note, if you're holding eye contact with a girl, relinquish the urge to look down, hold it until the second when it feels uncomfortable, and then you're allowed to casually look away. Darting eyes or looking down indicates weakness/submission, staring for too long makes you look like a rapist. The point where it gets uncomfortable is when you've passed her optical shit test anyways.
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