| One thing I do is aim to make an entrance into the club.
I kind of think about it like this, create a black hole that sucks everybody into you reality.
I've had many times where I've been approached within the first few seconds I've entered a venue.
Once I walked in, went to the cloak room line, and a girl grabbed me, and told me I was going home with her. I walked straight out of the club with her, easiest pickup ever.
In fact I can think of lots of times where the moment I've walked in I've been approached, and not in a 'you are dressed cheesy' way, more of a 'I want to fuck you' kind of way.
Now I don't want you to over think this, or make it a reason to not approach, its probably aimed at guys with a stronger skill set, and are in refining mode. In fact I think most of my posts are probably more for guys who are already getting results, just want to improve them further.
So in saying that, if you haven't had sex for a month, ignore this thread, and get out there and start interacting with at least 5-7 girls a week. You are kidding yourself if you are reading theory while being sexually frustrated.
Anyway, the first element to an entrance is avoiding common mistakes.
The biggest one of these is rushing, and scoping out every girl in the place. As well as having some of the best ladies men in the world to learn from, I've probably learned more from the guys who are the worst in the world with women. When I think of one in particular, by the time I walked to the bar, and got a drink, he had already been in every room of the club, and ran around like crazy, and gave me a report on what the talent was like. You do that, and everything 'pickup' becomes harder.
A good example is of a time I went to a gay bar, and it took me 10 minutes for me to realize I was in a gay bar. I walked in, didn't look at anyone, was in my own little world, and got a drink, and sat down, completely oblivious to everything around me. Thats the black hole I was talking about. I give everyone else nothing, its hard to catch my attention.
This is especially harder for guys who study pickup. So obsessed with girls they often walk in and give off the desperate vibe at best, and the wolf vibe at worst. Let me say it again, don't immediately check out every girl in the place. Do you ever see a female '10' walk in do that? Never.
Second is to work on your peripheral vision. Be able to see, without it seeming like you are looking. Want to lose all your venue status? Scan the place obviously.
Next is walk slowly. Like really slowly. Have all the time in the world. Play a game on how slow you can walk to the bar. Next is work on your posture. A natural I knew a few years ago said going out was the best ab workout you can get, he'd be sucking in his stomach and holding perfect posture the entire night. And he had the best abs I had ever seen.
Good posture sends so many of the right evolutionary messages. I've just spent 2 months at the physio having my posture worked on, and spent many weeks of those months with my shoulders strapped back with tape. Bad posture, well, it'll fuck you shit up. Stand against a wall sideways, and having someone take your picture.
Next is your energy, are you happy, and smiling? How are you living your life? Are you lazy, slack, hating life, depressed, bored? You walk into a club and think you can fake the opposite, and have women approach you? Good luck! Or are you hungry in your life, on a roll, enjoying a period of good luck, excited about your life, and you walk in like you just won the lottery because you love your life that much? Too much pickup material focuses on the stuff you do while in an interaction, what about the rest of your life?
Next is your image. Your clothes, your colour co-ordination, your hair, your branding, your jacket, your shoes, your unique identity. If you aren't being approached at least once per night at the moment, then I'd say something is wrong with your current image. Get INDEPENDENT ADVICE. I cannot stress this enough.
Next is your walk. I judge people by their walk. You can tell so much by it. The American Government is developing a technology to put surveillance on the entire world, guess how they are doing it? Thats right, by people's walk. Everyone has a unique walk, like a fingerprint, and with a satellite they can follow people around the world. They have buildings where an alarm goes off if you don't have authorization, and this is all done by cameras that sense your walk. All the authorized staff have their walk on record.
Next is your friends. Personally I prefer to enter a club on my own. That way I control the situation. entering with guys who hawk out the venue, makes pickup just as hard for me as those guys, and thats something I don't want. If your friends are desperate obsessed with women types, meet them inside. Men judge women by their waistlines, women judge men by their friends. Not fair sure, but it does tell you so much about them.
Guys underestimate generally on the power of their associations. Who are you at the club with makes a difference. I was out doing my approaching thing one night, and got separated from my pickup buddies. I was sitting with a girl on a couch, and it was going well, and she pointed out two guys at the bar and said "wow, those guys look like drink spikers". Was fairly tricky to explain those were my friends. She was seeing something I couldn't.
Its not like you can't pickup when you are with guys who lower your status, its just that you need to factor that into your interaction, and cover it off in advance. My girlfriend made a comment about my friends, that they didn't make any sense to her at all. Why would I hang out with these guys? I explained the pickup coaching and it made sense. The fact I was helping these guys out was a real positive. Obviously I didn't diss my friends or insult them, and my game surpassed who I was hanging out with, it didn't matter.
But I want to add this to your awareness so you can begin to notice patterns because you'll find pickup to be both easier, and harder, dependent on who you hang out with. Most guys have no concept of this at all, but your friends are such an important factor. On the vice versa have high status friends, and the game gets really easy. (don't be offended at this concept, guys tend to hate being judged by their friends, but such is life). Its why I tend to prefer solo game.
Next is your ability to negotiate a crowd. Are you easily bumped, swayed, pushed around, taken off course, or soft in your crowd handling. Or do you clear a path, people get out of your road, and do you generally really have a commanding presence? Women will notice How you work a crowd, how easily you can be served drinks at the bar, and what they notice about you while not talking to you often has a greater effect than what you say when talking to them.
Are you inconsiderate to other people? Are you friendly but firm? Do people not notice you and get in your road like you don't exist? Do you appear bigger than you really are? I think that the thing that guys who are bad with women fail to realize is that all the small details matter. Like how you wake up in the morning matters when you are talking to women on the weekend. If you are excited about life it will show.
The same with your behaviour in a club. There is no such thing as an approach, you are always interacting with the women around you non-verbally. Guys think it doesn't matter what they do when not talking to a woman, or where they stand, but it does. So many times guys will buy me beers, and this is massive for your venue status. Women are watching you with other people.
Next is where you locate yourself in the venue. Take notice of where the 10s tend to stand in a venue, thats where you need to stand. Its centrally located. I'll often stand in the one place for 30 minutes, much different to most guys who move around too much.
Next is not to be too fricken excited. Be happy, but calm. If you are doing all the work, why does a girl need to approach you? Its no wonder guys don't get approached when they don't give women an opportunity to make an effort. Guys tend to give away 100% of their energy, for free. It has little value. Be excited in your own skin.
Don't be so needy with your eye contact. There eye contact with purpose like you want to fuck someone. And there's eye contact that is wishing someone sees you and likes you. There is eye contact that is given to a woman that is extremely special, and there is eye contact that is checking out every woman in the place like a guy with no standards. Your eye contact is a valuable prize.
Instant approaching. When walking into a venue, sense the women who are interested, and immediately go to them, and approach. I've found instant approaching in a venue to be powerful, much more than, approaching after a long while, especially if there was some sort of connection with a girl when you first walked in. I can't count the times I've literally picked up minutes after entering a venue, and I was in such a sexual state, and just went for it immediately.
Next is being relaxed. Going out for me is almost meditative. I go into a place of heightened awareness. Its hard to explain, its like more of my brain is switched on than normal. But I'm so relaxed, my breathing slows down, and I'm really calm. Guys I see will run around too much, have anxiety, and get negative too easily. I can just go and sit at the bar for 2 hours, and not move, and be happy. Thats really how relaxed I am. Most guys I see are in a rush.
Lastly is pay attention to patterns, and repeat shit that works. I know for me the exact stuff I do that gets girls to approach me the most. My lifestyle, my clothes, everything. So many guys do get some nights where they get approached, and never sit down to work out why, journal it, and repeat it.
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