Inner Game: Simple. Cultivate happiness away from women. There are a myriad of ways to do this but it all centers on building confidence. Challenge yourself. Objectively list your fears, then go out and conquer them. Engage in an activity that elicits fear in yourself in some way. This is the only way to get stronger. This is what David Deida means in The Way of the Superior Man when he says "lean beyond your edge." In this way you convert negative energy into positive energy. Also, check out the self-help section next time you're in a library or book store. It may seem inane at first but self-help, is what it implies: self-help, meaning you have to do the work. When you take responsibility for your life you're empowered. Working out is always a boon as well.


Mentalities:

Playfulness: The streets are your playground. Seriousness kills in day game. Think about it: you're talking to a really hot girl. You're a random stranger. Often when you stop a girl (especially moving targets) you elicit anxiety because it is such a surprise. Is it smart to adopt a serious tone? She'll be quicker to think you're trying to rob her or worse rape her - that's right she may think you're working that R-GAME- if you're too serious initially. Keep it lighthearted and playful.


Non-Neuroticism: Don't be neurotic. Be mindful of any nervous ticks you have. If you have a wing ask him to pay attention to any visible nervous habits you may have. When you open the girl, be sure to speak clearly and enunciate. If they at all say "what?" you're not speaking loudly enough. Anxiety can often arrest your speech but train yourself to speak loudly and clearly. Stuttering or speaking initially in an excited state vs. slowly, clearly, and methodically may make her think subconsciously you're a pre-mature ejaculator. As a rule just act normal.


Indifference: Sorry to break it it to you fellas, but I'm going to have to dispel the myth: there is no such thing as an alpha male. There are only alpha male behaviors. In this day and age an alpha male is only someone who goes after what he wants exercising discipline, intelligence, passion, and structure. An alpha male so-called is simply someone with drive. Often, people who believe the alpha male ideal are frame addicts, to use the pick up terminology. They always need to have their "frame" maintained. These people have over-inflated egos. A real alpha male is open. He is humble and generous. The alpha male is selfless. In a tribal society an alpha male is generous because he's leading for the greater prosperity of the tribe not his own aggrandizement. He genuinely does not care what other people think of him because he's fighting for a cause greater than himself. Read Gillette and Moore's The King Within to understand what a true alpha male is, according to them, best described as a "Generative Man."


Moreover, no man in his right mind is confident in every single interaction. Unless you're mentally ill, you feel anxiety and worry at times. You can try to force confidence on yourself but this seldom works, and there are techniques to get into "state" but one should not rely on these because they do not work every time. Sometimes you will feel "in state" and others you won't. Instead, it is easier and far better to adopt indifference to outcome. This is the position that you want her but don't need her. You don't care what other people think, not because you think you're "the greatest man ever" but because you're humble and you accept yourself which allows you to be flexible and free from the burden of ego validation.


Abundance: The abundance mentality is key and overlaps with the other mentalities you should have. This one is pretty straightforward: there are a plethora of women to choose from. You can always find another girl. Sometimes it's easier said than done, but if you find yourself overcome with oneitis, you'll eventually come to your senses. The classic maxim captures it: there are plenty more fish in the sea. Indeed.


Selector: Women are attracted to men who know what they want and how they're going to get there. It is important to adopt a mentality that you are screening her to see if she meets your standards. A man who is truly "pre-selected" by women will not eagerly jump at the first piece of tail that comes his way; he'll be screening to see if they meet his standards. This is your task: to screen the girl.


Adventure: This is a spontaneous adventure for you and the girl. It isn't scripted. Anything can happen.


In your own state of being, be present and not incessantly inside of your head. If any of you are familiar with Eckhart Tolle and his magnum opus The Power of Now, then this should be a familiar concept to you. Tyler Durden glosses this over a bit as well. The mind is only a tool to be used don't allow it to tool you. Turn off the superfluous thinking and just be. "Being not doing" as Durden says.


Discipline: Any craft, skill, work, or trade requires discipline. In the beginning of learning game you may have the alacrity and excitement to get yourself going, but that may die out after a while, especially when you're not seeing the results you'd like to. Also, when doing cold approaching you will often receive a lot of negative feedback because you're being treated just as you are: a stranger. When you're out gaming you'll often have to undergo temporary suffering for long-term goals.


Practice is the father of all skill. In order to get better at gaming you'll have to consistently go out and practice regardless of how you're feeling or how many rejections you get. It just has to be a decision you've made beforehand that you'll adhere to. In a word: plow.


Integrity: Maintaining your integrity in an interaction is one of the most underrated concepts in game. It is in fact truly empowering. Think about it: most people in a night club environment, or while making a first impressions, are not truly being themselves; they're being fake. One can't reach perfection at this, but stay true to yourself and you will be empowered. Mature masculine men all have boundaries which they are willing to enforce as well.


Hot girls have boyfriends: One thing you must realize is that a large percentage of the attractive girls you approach will have already have boyfriends. In fact, one time I was in set and 5-6 mins later her boyfriend showed up while I was gaming her!!! Do not be deterred by this though. Just because a girl has a boyfriend doesn't mean she is not attainable. Women are biologically hardwired to be hypergamous (i.e. they go to whatever has the most survival value, and whatever gives them the most order). Moreover, there are different stages in a relationship which a couple may be in. For example, they could be at the point in their relationship when they are already on the brink of breaking up or they could be bored of each other. If you get boyfriend objections in the interaction you should ignore it and plow through. Sometimes you will have to address the bf issue but don't make it that much of a big deal: plow. On the other hand, you'll have to decide whether or not you want to try to pick up girls that already have boyfriends. Personally, I don't have an ethical problem with gaming girls who have boyfriends, but I steer clear of married women.


Success = approaching: This is borrowed directly from Tyler Durden. The measure of success, in your mind, is not if you get the phone # or i-date, but whether or not you approach. By adopting this mindset you free yourself of the need of getting a #. This helps to give you outcome independence andwill help to prevent you from sub-communicating neediness. If you conquer AA you win. No agenda.

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