| Right now if you're suffering from AA you’re misconstruing the source of your problems – namely, seeing the symptoms as the source and vice versa. Thought does not precede action, ACTION PRECEDES THOUGHT. The order of these words is not just an issue of semantics. To elaborate:
Imagine you see a girl. You’re about to approach her, but you think twice. Your main concern is, “I am not confident.” In this situation, thought precedes action. You are not approaching BECAUSE you are not confident. How would you go about solving this situation? You would have to grow “confidence” – that could take years right? You’d have to read The Mystery Method, you’d have to read Double Your Dating, you’d have to talk to gurus, you’d have to study all of George Clooney’s movies, you’d have to hone your skills in the Venusian Arts before attaining that natural level of confidence that Gurus emulate effortlessly. Which in effect, means that you will be unable to approach girls for a while – perhaps for your entire adolescence, until you are fully sure that you are confident and capable enough to bag them.
Now let’s take that same situation and think of it the other way around. This will seem completely counter-intuitive at first, but you'll get the hang of it
Instead of “I can’t approach because I am not Confident”
Think:
“I am not Confident, because I can’t approach”
How would you solve the second one? You are not Confident BECAUSE you do not approach. Which means… in order to be confident… you must approach. Visualize the difference for a second, it will hit you like a hammer. In situation A, you had to change your entire persona to solve the problem. Situation B isolates the problem as ONE ACTION. The problem is not your lack of confidence – the problem is your lack of approaching in this ONE ISOLATED INSTANCE.
“I cannot approach because I am not Confident” = You need to become Confident to approach this girl
“I am not Confident, because I cannot approach” = You need to Approach this girl, and then you’ll be confident
One isolates your thought process as the main dilemma, and thus requires a deeper, more esoteric change. The other isolates your action as the problem, requiring you to put yourself into motion to solve it.
Think of how the end point of each of these situations would look, when you’ve “hypothetically” solved your problem:
Scenario A: “I can now approach because I am Confident” = How can you know that you are confident enough? Some days you’ll feel like shit. Your game will go on a cold streak, does that mean you’ve lost your confidence? This is the way you’re thinking right now, and it will cause your game to choke at random times throughout your life.
Scenario B: “I am now Confident, because I just approached that Girl” = You had the balls to talk to this girl, so you are now confident. The problem is simpler, and the solution is simpler. The next time your game chokes, you know what you have to do. Not “Grow Confidence” – your problem is your lack of action. You just have to force yourself to talk to some girl and you’ll regain it.
Dump all those guides, dump all those books, dump this forum. Just say SOMETHING. Don't let game become a source of intellectual masturbation, you learn to approach BY approaching. PUA guides and such should serve as nothing more than SUPPLEMENTS, your foundation should come from your own experience.
Take advantage of your greatest strength as a Man - your ability to adhere to action. Stop "over thinking" or "thinking if you're over thinking" or "under thinking your ability to over think," embrace ACTION ACTION ACTION
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